Hello everyone,
A bit long with my story, thanks for your patience.
I am a devastated mother with an Asian background, who is now facing assault charges and most likely family proceedings where I could possibly lose custody of children.
I have been in an abusive relationship with my children’s father for about 11 years. His father and extended family had physically bashed/strangled me at Christmas 2010, in front of our then three-year-old son, where police were called but didn’t do much as we quickly left the scene after the incident.
This weak, narcissistic husband of mine then clearly chose his side through years of manipulation and stone-walling towards me, aiming to bend me to curtail to his biological family’s requirements and wishes. As a woman with tertiary education and own judgement, I stood strong against his and his family’s manipulation and accusations. Yet to keep the family in tact for our kids, as I don’t want them to go through what I have been through (as a kid from a single parent family), I have been trying to keep the marriage together.
About four-five years ago, my in-laws sold their rural acreage due to development zoning and got about two or three millions cash in their bank. That is the first time in their lives to have this much cash. Ever since then, their and my ex’s attitude towards me changed from bad to worse.
My ex has since then pushed really hard for divorce while I was still trying to make it work for our two boys. In 2016, I went overseas for a while and came back to find he had consulted a family lawyer regarding separation, divorce and custody of children. He started to lobby me into accepting that he has the sole custody of two boys, etc which I declined saying there is no way I will give up custody of my kids.
In June 2017, my then father-in-law drove to our house and punched me again (since 2010) in my face. My ex told the police he didn’t see his father’s fist connect my face, despite that my cheek was swollen and red. An AVO was taken out against his father protecting me.
Ex then pushed hard since June for his parents to see our kids which I rejected saying I don’t feel comfortable for that for a short while, given what happened in June. I further requested my ex to leave as he told lies to police in an effort to save his father. I felt mutual trust is gone completely.
My ex insisted on staying to make our relationship work. I was suspicious but allowed him chance. Between June and November there had been almost no effort from him to repair the relationship and my suspicion as in his motive of staying increased in volume.
One day in November he executed his plan by causing an argument with me where he started recording the conversation between me and our oldest son. While I was attempting to turn off his phone, he grabbed my throat forcing me to defend myself by leaving two scratches on his arm.
He then picked up our two and a half years old, jumped into the car, raced to the police station and cried victim.
I called 000 as he raced off as I don’t drive.
Now I was charged for common assault against my ex as well as assaulting police(as they came to our house to arrest me and taken me away in front of our ten-year-old son) as well as resisting arrest.
I haven’t been with my two kids since the nightmare took place about mid-November 2017. Ex took both of our kids and ran to his parents about two hours drive away. Now my oldest son has been kept out of school for almost two months. My two and a half has since then been put into a local childcare five days a week.
As a devastated mother I cry everyday to be with my kids. Yet all I could have is a supervised visit every week in the public. I want to toilet train my youngest as he is already thirty three months old and ex has no intention of starting that soon!(given that he never toilet trained the first child!) I want to supervise my oldest study as he has been excellent academically until his dad took him out of a State famous school and was about to put him into a local under-average school.
If convicted I would have no chance of getting sole custody of my children, yes?
I just know I have to fight especially the ex has been such a calculating schemer.
Thanks for your patience and help.
A bit long with my story, thanks for your patience.
I am a devastated mother with an Asian background, who is now facing assault charges and most likely family proceedings where I could possibly lose custody of children.
I have been in an abusive relationship with my children’s father for about 11 years. His father and extended family had physically bashed/strangled me at Christmas 2010, in front of our then three-year-old son, where police were called but didn’t do much as we quickly left the scene after the incident.
This weak, narcissistic husband of mine then clearly chose his side through years of manipulation and stone-walling towards me, aiming to bend me to curtail to his biological family’s requirements and wishes. As a woman with tertiary education and own judgement, I stood strong against his and his family’s manipulation and accusations. Yet to keep the family in tact for our kids, as I don’t want them to go through what I have been through (as a kid from a single parent family), I have been trying to keep the marriage together.
About four-five years ago, my in-laws sold their rural acreage due to development zoning and got about two or three millions cash in their bank. That is the first time in their lives to have this much cash. Ever since then, their and my ex’s attitude towards me changed from bad to worse.
My ex has since then pushed really hard for divorce while I was still trying to make it work for our two boys. In 2016, I went overseas for a while and came back to find he had consulted a family lawyer regarding separation, divorce and custody of children. He started to lobby me into accepting that he has the sole custody of two boys, etc which I declined saying there is no way I will give up custody of my kids.
In June 2017, my then father-in-law drove to our house and punched me again (since 2010) in my face. My ex told the police he didn’t see his father’s fist connect my face, despite that my cheek was swollen and red. An AVO was taken out against his father protecting me.
Ex then pushed hard since June for his parents to see our kids which I rejected saying I don’t feel comfortable for that for a short while, given what happened in June. I further requested my ex to leave as he told lies to police in an effort to save his father. I felt mutual trust is gone completely.
My ex insisted on staying to make our relationship work. I was suspicious but allowed him chance. Between June and November there had been almost no effort from him to repair the relationship and my suspicion as in his motive of staying increased in volume.
One day in November he executed his plan by causing an argument with me where he started recording the conversation between me and our oldest son. While I was attempting to turn off his phone, he grabbed my throat forcing me to defend myself by leaving two scratches on his arm.
He then picked up our two and a half years old, jumped into the car, raced to the police station and cried victim.
I called 000 as he raced off as I don’t drive.
Now I was charged for common assault against my ex as well as assaulting police(as they came to our house to arrest me and taken me away in front of our ten-year-old son) as well as resisting arrest.
I haven’t been with my two kids since the nightmare took place about mid-November 2017. Ex took both of our kids and ran to his parents about two hours drive away. Now my oldest son has been kept out of school for almost two months. My two and a half has since then been put into a local childcare five days a week.
As a devastated mother I cry everyday to be with my kids. Yet all I could have is a supervised visit every week in the public. I want to toilet train my youngest as he is already thirty three months old and ex has no intention of starting that soon!(given that he never toilet trained the first child!) I want to supervise my oldest study as he has been excellent academically until his dad took him out of a State famous school and was about to put him into a local under-average school.
If convicted I would have no chance of getting sole custody of my children, yes?
I just know I have to fight especially the ex has been such a calculating schemer.
Thanks for your patience and help.