Hi all, my partner has an almost 4 year old boy to her ex. Basically the relationship between them was toxic from the start, there has been issues of the father not being paying childcare fees, ripping the boy out of my partners arms in front of her work and him constantly trying to put limits on what she can do and who the son is to be around. Once they separated he has stated that it was to be 3 nights about, which continued for approximately 6 months, she agreed to this out of fear. She's was in the cycle of domestic violence, minimising all of his behaviours etc.
There are now interim orders in place for week about, however each time the son comes back to us he is unwashed, fingernails are red raw and he is constantly talking about ghosts etc, the father isn't able to separate the way he talks to adults and to his son and puts a lot of pressure on him to comply with his demands.
My partner has never moved out of the region but has been offered a place at university in Queensland, where my family also reside and would like to pursue a career as she found out she was pregnant when due to commence in 2013.We obviously want to take the boy to live with us and have proposed paying for all
travel for him to spend time with his father.
We intend to have more children and that is where we would want to raise them.
There is also a lot of evidence from him stating he wanted to move to the same region.
We have a family reporter coming in to do an assessment and are nervous that the father and his mother who is well known to be a long time drug user and dealer will put their best foot forward and try and bluff their way through this.
My partner even in the midst of being constantly abused and controlled, has always made an effort to be civil with father and making effort on Father's Day birthdays etc, he didn't even allow her to speak to the son on her birthday or Mother's Day.
Does anyone have any suggestion on what the outcome will likely be? I understand it is quite complex.
There are now interim orders in place for week about, however each time the son comes back to us he is unwashed, fingernails are red raw and he is constantly talking about ghosts etc, the father isn't able to separate the way he talks to adults and to his son and puts a lot of pressure on him to comply with his demands.
My partner has never moved out of the region but has been offered a place at university in Queensland, where my family also reside and would like to pursue a career as she found out she was pregnant when due to commence in 2013.We obviously want to take the boy to live with us and have proposed paying for all
travel for him to spend time with his father.
We intend to have more children and that is where we would want to raise them.
There is also a lot of evidence from him stating he wanted to move to the same region.
We have a family reporter coming in to do an assessment and are nervous that the father and his mother who is well known to be a long time drug user and dealer will put their best foot forward and try and bluff their way through this.
My partner even in the midst of being constantly abused and controlled, has always made an effort to be civil with father and making effort on Father's Day birthdays etc, he didn't even allow her to speak to the son on her birthday or Mother's Day.
Does anyone have any suggestion on what the outcome will likely be? I understand it is quite complex.