Hello everyone
I'm very much in a tight situation, story in a nutshell. My son is 14, I raised him alone till his dad came back into his life at 8 with a partner. He wanted to get to know my son so he went to live with his dad. I've known him for years and know his family well. He had seen my son on and off over the years but I raised him.
Once they got my boy they made contact with me nearly impossible. I took them to court 2years later and won back care. He put an order in place by presenting it to me the day before court. I agreed as I didnt want to delay the court. Basically it said they have the child every second weekend and half the school holidays. Also that I can't move towns.
This order has been in place for 3 years now. My son never wants to go there and I have basically been making him for the whole time. I recently learnt that his dad has been away for work on the majority of the weekends he was meant to be spending with son. Ironically he works in the same town we actually live and has made no attempts to see or contact my son. His wife also has two young children in the picture now. She makes my boy look after then when he is there.
My son had to see a child psychologist when he came back to living with me. The changes caused him some issues. He saw her for close to a year. He is now back seeing her as 3 months ago he flat our refused to see his dad anymore.
I called for mediation and so far it's not working. My boy still refuses to see his dad. I've been advised not to force him to go and that his psychologist will stand up in court and say its detrimental to his mental health if he is forced to go.
I can't afford a lawyer again after $20k for the last case. I can't keep forcing him to go and I'm currently breaching the court orders. I honestly don't know what to do here. I hope that what Ive posted has made enough sense
Thank you in advance
I'm very much in a tight situation, story in a nutshell. My son is 14, I raised him alone till his dad came back into his life at 8 with a partner. He wanted to get to know my son so he went to live with his dad. I've known him for years and know his family well. He had seen my son on and off over the years but I raised him.
Once they got my boy they made contact with me nearly impossible. I took them to court 2years later and won back care. He put an order in place by presenting it to me the day before court. I agreed as I didnt want to delay the court. Basically it said they have the child every second weekend and half the school holidays. Also that I can't move towns.
This order has been in place for 3 years now. My son never wants to go there and I have basically been making him for the whole time. I recently learnt that his dad has been away for work on the majority of the weekends he was meant to be spending with son. Ironically he works in the same town we actually live and has made no attempts to see or contact my son. His wife also has two young children in the picture now. She makes my boy look after then when he is there.
My son had to see a child psychologist when he came back to living with me. The changes caused him some issues. He saw her for close to a year. He is now back seeing her as 3 months ago he flat our refused to see his dad anymore.
I called for mediation and so far it's not working. My boy still refuses to see his dad. I've been advised not to force him to go and that his psychologist will stand up in court and say its detrimental to his mental health if he is forced to go.
I can't afford a lawyer again after $20k for the last case. I can't keep forcing him to go and I'm currently breaching the court orders. I honestly don't know what to do here. I hope that what Ive posted has made enough sense
Thank you in advance