Hi everyone.
Just wondering if anyone has any advice. I'll try and keep it brief. This is for a friend, not me.
Friends version can be substaniated with witnesses or evidence.
1. Do Vic Police need recent grounds to take out an Intervention Order?
2. Respondent works in an occupation wherby this looks bad on his record. Is it possible to ask to get it removed as Respondent is not a threat and never was?
3. Respondent also is not able to go shooting, which is a social hobby for him. The fact that she has made this complaint in January 2020 appears to be weaponizing of DV legislation.
4. Is there anything that Respondent can do about this to maybe take an IO to stop her contacting him or doing things to negatively impact his life? He is fearful that she will keep coming up with things and she has not gone away as he thought. He also does not want her causing further trouble with his job, hobbies, social life, or new relationship.
5. Any tips on what to take to the hearing / how best to handle this withthe court once he gets there? He won't be talking to her or going near her if she turns up.
5. Anything else that anyone can help with or suggest is greatly appreciated.
Thanks for reading such a long post - hopefully it makes sense. Very grateful for any assistance and tips anyone has. Thank you
Just wondering if anyone has any advice. I'll try and keep it brief. This is for a friend, not me.
Friends version can be substaniated with witnesses or evidence.
- Male friend (respondent) had casual relations with a female (applicant) from late 2018 in QLD.
- Applicant moved 2 doors from Respondent in March 2019 as she wanted to see him more.
- Around April 2019 Applicant started to become quite possessive - incessant messages / calls / abuse when phone not answered / wanting to stay at his place or him to stay at hers and so on.
- Around May 2019 Applicant threatened suicide, was self-harming and blaming applicant "look what you made me do"
- Around June 2019 Applicant attempted suicide 3 times, calling applicant. Applicant took Respondent home and cared for her as no family in QLD. Contacted family. Family came from Vic, but Applicant refused to leave Respondent.
- July 2019 Respondents birthday. Applicant booked hotel suite in NSW under Respondents name and got Respondent to pay. Arrived evening of day 1 - no incidents but Applicant had no money so respondent having to pay for her.
- Early evening day 2 Applicant started to abuse Respondent as he as on the phone to his dad in UK and she thought it was an ex-girlfriend. Respondent returned to room alone. Applicant finished drinks and returned to room. Applicant started hitting respondent. Respondent did not hit back - locked himself in bathroom. Applicant called a friend and passed the phone through the door to respondent. Respondent spoke to her friend and asked her to come and get Applicant. Maybe 20 mintues later Respondent thought she had left and came out of bathroom. Respondent jumped out crash tackiling him onto the bed. She then proceeded to strangle him with his hoodie. Reposndent was blacking out and hit her temple with the outside edge of his left hand made into a fist a few times. She fell off crying that he hit her. He did not see that there was any significant damage or he would have made sure she had medical treatment. He gave her $100, told her to pack her things and leave and never contact him again. He left the room and called his friend to come.
- When his friend arrived maybe 45 minutes later they went to the room. Applicant had left but had smashed up the room. They don't have photos. They had to fix cupboard doors and doors that were broken off their hinges.
- Applicant moved back to Victoria a couple of weeks later.
- Respondent blocked social media and phone numbers and has had no contact since mid July 2019.
- Respondent got engaged late December 2019. Respondent deleted all photos of her on social media early January 2020 and posted about the engagement. Discovered her best friend is still following him on Insta in Feb 2020.
- 16 January 2020 Applicant has lodged a complaint with Vic Police that Respondent attacked her and left her with significant injuries. This cannot be substantiated. She has admitted in writing to friends at the time she strangled him.
- Vic Police have taken out an IO at this time against the Respondent. (they are the actual applicants on the IO paperwork even though I've referred to her as the applicant)
- Feb 2020 - went to court in Victoria (respondent didn't even know about this) Interim Order made.
- Feb 2020 Respondent Served - Next hearing April 2020. It looks like he will have to go to Victoria to clear his name.
1. Do Vic Police need recent grounds to take out an Intervention Order?
2. Respondent works in an occupation wherby this looks bad on his record. Is it possible to ask to get it removed as Respondent is not a threat and never was?
3. Respondent also is not able to go shooting, which is a social hobby for him. The fact that she has made this complaint in January 2020 appears to be weaponizing of DV legislation.
4. Is there anything that Respondent can do about this to maybe take an IO to stop her contacting him or doing things to negatively impact his life? He is fearful that she will keep coming up with things and she has not gone away as he thought. He also does not want her causing further trouble with his job, hobbies, social life, or new relationship.
5. Any tips on what to take to the hearing / how best to handle this withthe court once he gets there? He won't be talking to her or going near her if she turns up.
5. Anything else that anyone can help with or suggest is greatly appreciated.
Thanks for reading such a long post - hopefully it makes sense. Very grateful for any assistance and tips anyone has. Thank you