Just wanted to say thank you to the main contributors to this forum. I've spent the last few days trawling through posts and have learnt so much. There's a few people in particular that dedicate a lot of time and patience. I'm ultimately accepting that I have no control over the outcome of my situation and that (for the most part - some people clean up!) there's no such thing as 'winners' in these cases. And, ironically, that actually gives me a sense of control. Thanks to Sammy, Allforher and Hopethishelps!