Hi all! It's been a while since I've posted. I'm helping my partner self-rep as the applicant in a case for parenting (and now property) orders. It's going well - huge thanks to previous posts and advice from @sammy01 @Tremaine @AllForHer 💙
My partner's ex-wife's Legal Aid lawyer was able to get her to agree to a bunch of orders by consent at the last directions hearing, meaning his time with child is now protected - awesome. Obviously, ex-wife is struggling with this change. She hasn't breached any of the orders, and has made child available when she would normally withhold - but has unfortunately reverted to old habits (which have, to her credit, calmed down a lot since proceedings were initiated) - there's many, but the most damaging to my partner's mental health are the insanely long, abusive emails riddled with WORDS IN ALL CAPITAL LETTERS.
We don't need or want more evidence against her, he just wants to leave the past in the past and get along for child's sake, keep communications short and sweet. My partner is a war veteran with PTSD - he has done a lot of work and continues to do so to improve his self-esteem, resilience, self-care, emotional responses etc. He's a wonderful dad and has a great relationship with kiddo (as do I). However, with PTSD it's really easy to knock someone into a negative spiral. Her emails are seriously damaging to his quality of life, and he just wants them to stop.
Today he's asked me, "Do you think it's almost worth getting a VRO against her?"
So I'm asking here - what do you guys think? He's happy to receive child-related communication from her but doesn't want the abuse, threats of withholding etc. She has no desire to get along and feels no obligation to play nice for kid's sake. I know you can't necessarily control crazy with court orders, but it's the only thing that's helped so far. Should we seek advice into making an FVRO application? What have your experiences been?
My partner's ex-wife's Legal Aid lawyer was able to get her to agree to a bunch of orders by consent at the last directions hearing, meaning his time with child is now protected - awesome. Obviously, ex-wife is struggling with this change. She hasn't breached any of the orders, and has made child available when she would normally withhold - but has unfortunately reverted to old habits (which have, to her credit, calmed down a lot since proceedings were initiated) - there's many, but the most damaging to my partner's mental health are the insanely long, abusive emails riddled with WORDS IN ALL CAPITAL LETTERS.
We don't need or want more evidence against her, he just wants to leave the past in the past and get along for child's sake, keep communications short and sweet. My partner is a war veteran with PTSD - he has done a lot of work and continues to do so to improve his self-esteem, resilience, self-care, emotional responses etc. He's a wonderful dad and has a great relationship with kiddo (as do I). However, with PTSD it's really easy to knock someone into a negative spiral. Her emails are seriously damaging to his quality of life, and he just wants them to stop.
Today he's asked me, "Do you think it's almost worth getting a VRO against her?"
So I'm asking here - what do you guys think? He's happy to receive child-related communication from her but doesn't want the abuse, threats of withholding etc. She has no desire to get along and feels no obligation to play nice for kid's sake. I know you can't necessarily control crazy with court orders, but it's the only thing that's helped so far. Should we seek advice into making an FVRO application? What have your experiences been?