At my workplace is a homosexual barman. He has no direct authority over me (I work in the kitchen) so he's not legally a boss or anything. He has a "crush" on me and I find it extremely uncomfortable. It's also dragged on for months (since I started working there) and until recently nobody else even realised this was going on because they were all convinced he was straight (he's in a faux heterosexual relationship to get his inheritance or something, a long story, suffice to say he is actually homosexual). Harassment / workplace bullying includes: - sexual posturing at me, ie. he positions himself in my field of view all day and will waive his bottom at me etc. I find this really uncomfortable - will generally take any opportunity to imply that I'm a homosexual, I think because he's convinced he can 'turn me gay for him' - has made more than one "advance" on me even though I've plainly and politely stated I'm straight many many times - more than once (but infrequently) he's tried to interact with me outside of work. The guy literally dressed up as a girl and basically made out with the window of a payphone as I road home on my bike. I found this in particular really creepy. I know this probably sounds a bit stupid but basically its been going on for a long time and I'm well passed sick of it. I've never done anything to encourage this. My wikipedia understanding of harassment is that this has contributed to a hostile work environment and in many ways is a form of bullying especially when he has legitimately tried to convince other co-workers that I'm homosexual. Other things have done have bordered on stalking. He also knows a few other homosexuals in my city and I've stopped going to the local Commonwealth Bank and a cafe I used to frequent because of unwanted attention from his friends that work at these businesses. The bank in particular is worrying because his "friend" at this business has shared details of the account in which I deposit my rent, and my deposit behaviour, as if this is either interesting or worth sharing, but as far as I know this is meant to be confidential information all the same. There's no way I could get this in writing either he's simply said things to me to try and creep me out that blatantly indicate this information was shared by an employee at the bank. This is also difficult because he's so far avoided any direct/avert harassment. Like when he makes an "advance" its extremely indirect and its left to me to decide that it was an unwanted advance and to tell him I'm not OK with it. This makes me think that it would be pretty much impossible to take any action whatsoever against him in court. And I'm not really interested in going to court I'd just like to know my options so I can put it on the table with him and hopefully he'll start acting his age (30 - I'm 20) I'd rather not take action through my workplace because I'm paid off the books and the process would probably drag my boss into trouble.