The police served me an AVO and as these things go, you don't get to respond and suddenly you are in court.
My ex-girlfriend left her previous boyfriend for me. We lived together straight away starting Jan 14 in a house that was $825 a week. I paid for everything, rent, utilities, bills for the whole duration of our lease. All the furniture there is mine. We broke up in August but she stayed with me because she had no job. I continued to take care of her as we struggled to move on. In October, I told her not to talk to me anymore and I started sleeping at my sister's house a few times. She called me 14 times at work and won't stop messaging me all day. In November, I went overseas while she stayed at the house that i continued to pay for. I was ok with this because I cared for her. I told her again not to contact me unless necessary. She still did and said she was having trouble coping without me.
In Dec, I was running out of funds and needed to talk to her about starting to pay rent. I kept msging for a time to talk, no response. So I called more times. She didn't return my calls. Bear in mind she was still living at our house with my dog. I was still overseas and rent was due so I got desperate. I kept calling. Even called work reception 3 times. Eventually at the end of the day she agreed to call me and we had a good chat. She agreed to pay rent and we agreed to no contact unless necessary. The next day she called me talking about her work and how she hadn't been paid and asked if I can I cover it. And so I had to make it work somehow.
Eventually I came back to Sydney but did not go to the residence. A few days later, I dropped by our house to drop off some stuff. That's when I saw her with her ex. I didn't interrupt as he was already leaving. After he left, I walked up and said Hi. I dropped the stuff off and turned around and started walking. But I didn't want her to think that I was angry. I wanted her to know it's all ok. I turned around and stood at the door and calmly said, I don't want to leave like this can we talk? She tried to close the door but I blocked it with my foot. I was still very calm at this stage and I thought if I persisted a little more I can fix the situation. In any case, I felt I still had a right to be at the property as we are both on the lease and she had not paid a cent of rent at that point. Eventually she said she would open the door but she didn't and called a mutual friend instead. I waited for the friend, went for a walk and had a good talk with her. Then I left. An hour and a half later the police called me asking me to go to the police station.
Having read the AVO from the police, she clearly said that she had no fears that I would physically harm her. But the police served me anyway because she made up a story where we broke up in March, I moved out in June and have been calling, texting her nonstop ever since even after she told me not to. The only proof she showed were my msgs when i contacted her at work. They took all this and thought it would escalate and I would hurt her.
Even though I have no intention of contacting her, I take pride in my reputation and my record is important in my field. I do not want an AVO. I want to show my evidence to the police to refute everything hoping that if they see it they will withdraw before the hearing. Is this possible? Has this happened before?
My ex-girlfriend left her previous boyfriend for me. We lived together straight away starting Jan 14 in a house that was $825 a week. I paid for everything, rent, utilities, bills for the whole duration of our lease. All the furniture there is mine. We broke up in August but she stayed with me because she had no job. I continued to take care of her as we struggled to move on. In October, I told her not to talk to me anymore and I started sleeping at my sister's house a few times. She called me 14 times at work and won't stop messaging me all day. In November, I went overseas while she stayed at the house that i continued to pay for. I was ok with this because I cared for her. I told her again not to contact me unless necessary. She still did and said she was having trouble coping without me.
In Dec, I was running out of funds and needed to talk to her about starting to pay rent. I kept msging for a time to talk, no response. So I called more times. She didn't return my calls. Bear in mind she was still living at our house with my dog. I was still overseas and rent was due so I got desperate. I kept calling. Even called work reception 3 times. Eventually at the end of the day she agreed to call me and we had a good chat. She agreed to pay rent and we agreed to no contact unless necessary. The next day she called me talking about her work and how she hadn't been paid and asked if I can I cover it. And so I had to make it work somehow.
Eventually I came back to Sydney but did not go to the residence. A few days later, I dropped by our house to drop off some stuff. That's when I saw her with her ex. I didn't interrupt as he was already leaving. After he left, I walked up and said Hi. I dropped the stuff off and turned around and started walking. But I didn't want her to think that I was angry. I wanted her to know it's all ok. I turned around and stood at the door and calmly said, I don't want to leave like this can we talk? She tried to close the door but I blocked it with my foot. I was still very calm at this stage and I thought if I persisted a little more I can fix the situation. In any case, I felt I still had a right to be at the property as we are both on the lease and she had not paid a cent of rent at that point. Eventually she said she would open the door but she didn't and called a mutual friend instead. I waited for the friend, went for a walk and had a good talk with her. Then I left. An hour and a half later the police called me asking me to go to the police station.
Having read the AVO from the police, she clearly said that she had no fears that I would physically harm her. But the police served me anyway because she made up a story where we broke up in March, I moved out in June and have been calling, texting her nonstop ever since even after she told me not to. The only proof she showed were my msgs when i contacted her at work. They took all this and thought it would escalate and I would hurt her.
Even though I have no intention of contacting her, I take pride in my reputation and my record is important in my field. I do not want an AVO. I want to show my evidence to the police to refute everything hoping that if they see it they will withdraw before the hearing. Is this possible? Has this happened before?