You may have grounds for an IVO yourself and request that both matters are heard together. This protects you in the interim. You might find this matter may be dropped at the directions hearing after negotiation. He still remains the protected person as the police took the IVO out first for his protection which as you mentioned was due to an argument. Unfortunately it’s up to you to prove you are not an ongoing threat to his personal safety. He only has to say that an argument took place and that his was fearful. Even if you ask for an undertaking he still needs to agree to it, but you may be able to negotiate for this. Also with COVID restrictions with my mentions I was told not to attend court as I was contesting but the applicant could still address the magistrate and put forward more false allegations so where is the fairness in that. In a nutshell you will not get the fairness you are seeking, the magistrate will always see the applicant as the victim. You can only show that you are not an ongoing threat and that is best done by staying away, not breaching the order and having your legal rep negotiate with his legal rep prior to the directions or on the day of it. I know it sucks. If it runs to a contest he will be up for high legal costs just as much as you possibly will.