I don't blame you. I don't like to explain it.
My ex-wife was in an undeclared lesbian relationship which started while she was pregnant with her first child. The father has never been in the picture.
They had another child together in the three years they were together. I was effectively "the other man" who she had an affair with and that relationship ended. The kids had a 7/7 fortnightly routine between houses, I can't remember exactly how it was split, it wasn't week on week off.
About a year after we got together we decided to have a baby, and our relationship went in and out of hell for a bit, she moved back in with her ex for a month until she remembered why she left. Just before she was born I was asked if I was ok with her having access to our daughter because she was a great emotional support to my wife, I agreed believing she meant a role like godmother, maybe spend a night a week there. Instead, I found out about a week after she was born, access meant the same deal as my step kids, including making parental decisions.
I started having counselling for depression 2 weeks later, my wife refused to make changes to the "arrangement" and didn't want to know about my mental health issues and refused to go to counselling. I'm now taking strong antidepressants as a result.
During the first year of her life, I was accused by her ex to be molesting my daughter, her ex quit her job after being reprimanded for verbally abusing my older stepdaughter and myself and my step kids had been told they weren't allowed to call me dad, even though they were desperate for a father figure. I kept asking to stop our daughter going there but told me "she couldn't do that to" her ex, as in causing emotional damage.
We had another child, and she did not have the same arrangement as our older daughter, however I had severe post natal depression as I feared a similar situation.
Our older daughter is now four, the relationship between myself and my ex wife is good if we don't talk about the kids. She has the older 3 three nights a week and the youngest 5, I have my older daughter once a week (and world war 3 had to be averted to get that) and my younger one twice, however I have majority of daytime access with her. Her ex has the older 2 four nights a week and my oldest 3. There are no court orders in place.
My biggest problem right now is her ex's new partner who is a former families sa worker. She told me this morning She had evidence I was an unwitting sperm donor 5 years ago. Last night she also tried to have me arrested for kidnapping my own daughter after I picked her up from vacation care.
The reality is ive spent four years being bullied out of being the father my children need. I've expressed my concerns multiple times to my wife about abuse to the children at the other house, yet she is unwilling to challenge her exs behaviour, even after experiencing it first hand: her ex took my spot on a family holiday we booked before we split and according to my wife, spent the whole week either in her room or yelling at the kids for no reason.
Anyone who read all that, I think I still missed stuff, and I apologise if it's confusing, I get confused by the situation.
I'm seeking a 50/50 type deal for all four kids with just my ex wife so I expect a long and nasty fight
My ex-wife was in an undeclared lesbian relationship which started while she was pregnant with her first child. The father has never been in the picture.
They had another child together in the three years they were together. I was effectively "the other man" who she had an affair with and that relationship ended. The kids had a 7/7 fortnightly routine between houses, I can't remember exactly how it was split, it wasn't week on week off.
About a year after we got together we decided to have a baby, and our relationship went in and out of hell for a bit, she moved back in with her ex for a month until she remembered why she left. Just before she was born I was asked if I was ok with her having access to our daughter because she was a great emotional support to my wife, I agreed believing she meant a role like godmother, maybe spend a night a week there. Instead, I found out about a week after she was born, access meant the same deal as my step kids, including making parental decisions.
I started having counselling for depression 2 weeks later, my wife refused to make changes to the "arrangement" and didn't want to know about my mental health issues and refused to go to counselling. I'm now taking strong antidepressants as a result.
During the first year of her life, I was accused by her ex to be molesting my daughter, her ex quit her job after being reprimanded for verbally abusing my older stepdaughter and myself and my step kids had been told they weren't allowed to call me dad, even though they were desperate for a father figure. I kept asking to stop our daughter going there but told me "she couldn't do that to" her ex, as in causing emotional damage.
We had another child, and she did not have the same arrangement as our older daughter, however I had severe post natal depression as I feared a similar situation.
Our older daughter is now four, the relationship between myself and my ex wife is good if we don't talk about the kids. She has the older 3 three nights a week and the youngest 5, I have my older daughter once a week (and world war 3 had to be averted to get that) and my younger one twice, however I have majority of daytime access with her. Her ex has the older 2 four nights a week and my oldest 3. There are no court orders in place.
My biggest problem right now is her ex's new partner who is a former families sa worker. She told me this morning She had evidence I was an unwitting sperm donor 5 years ago. Last night she also tried to have me arrested for kidnapping my own daughter after I picked her up from vacation care.
The reality is ive spent four years being bullied out of being the father my children need. I've expressed my concerns multiple times to my wife about abuse to the children at the other house, yet she is unwilling to challenge her exs behaviour, even after experiencing it first hand: her ex took my spot on a family holiday we booked before we split and according to my wife, spent the whole week either in her room or yelling at the kids for no reason.
Anyone who read all that, I think I still missed stuff, and I apologise if it's confusing, I get confused by the situation.
I'm seeking a 50/50 type deal for all four kids with just my ex wife so I expect a long and nasty fight