BUT given Lennon reckons this is entirely motivate by child support. I reckon his best bet is to wait until CSA determine his care % and assuming he has more that 52 nights, the argument will end because the motivation for the argument is gone....
Well, it's about child support AND her burning desire to be a martyr AND her desire to gain some control back. The number of times she said during the court proceedings that she was "raising the children all by herself with no help from anyone" was *incredible*, particularly given that her ability as a parent was not in issue. She didn't understand (still doesn't) that no-one cared about that, the only question was how much time the children should spend with me.
She loves to tell people that she's doing it all by herself (of course without ever mentioning the child support she receives or the fact that I have always sought more time with the children).
Hey lennon - things could be worse... Help me with this one... What happens when order say half of school holidays... What happens when there is a public holiday or easter tagged on.. So For example years back there were 15 nights in the holidays - 2 weeks and 1 day due to a public holiday... How do you divide 15 in half? Do change over at midnight? I suggested the ex just let me have the extra nights since she has more time with the kids anyways... She said NOPE... Pissed me off at the time... Looking back, I really wish I had not gotten so upset... WHY? Well it means she won, she got the extra night and she got to piss me off...
This is why I wanted to avoid the "half holidays" thing - plus I wanted (and got) slightly more than half holidays, and wanted a precise amount of time in the orders so we didn't have to argue about interpretation. I just did not foresee an argument about what a "day" is lol.
Mate your ex is kinda winning.. WHY? well she has sent you bonkers enough that you worked out how many seconds there are in a day.. 3066 - that is how many hours equates to 35% of the year... I can remember that number even though about 5 yrs have passed since I was in a similar crazy place to you. Not legal advice, just some wisdom I've picked up along the way... When the ex has you searching databases for a definition of a basic term like day OR night you have been sucked into the crazy place where the ex lives... It is a crazy place where Alph the secret river runs through caverns measureless to man down to a sunless see...
Noooo she's not. She's losing and she hates it. She completely lost in court. She lost her pride because she resorted to telling huge lies to try to win, so she knows I don't have any respect left for her. She had to sell an investment property that her deceased father helped her buy, to pay the fees of lawyers who did an awful job at representing her. She's no longer able to control the information the children's school or medical practitioners gives me. She's lost the control she had over my time with the kids. She's lost the control she had over my communication with the kids. She's now forced to contribute to their airfares for the first time. She must know that she's going to lose with the CSA.
On top of all that, if she wants to fight me on this "day" issue she'll have to pay even more money for legal expenses, which she can't afford (nothing left to sell, no more inheritances left to blow, child support about to drop by 25% per year).
She's losing all over the place, and she is furious about it.
No. Count again:
1 9am Mon-9 Tues
2 9am Tues-9 Weds
3 9am Wed-9 Thur
4 9am Thur-9 Fri
5 9am Fri-9 Sat
6 9am Sat-9 Sun
7 9am Sun-9 Mon
8 9am Mon-9 Tue
9 9am Tue-9 Wed
10 9am Wed-9 Thur
Yes.
I haven't heard anything further from her. I am going to book them on the dates I believe are correct. The test will come when I send her the flight details at the end of this month.
She has to book half their return flights, so maybe she will book those flights on the days that she believes are correct, and I'll book them on the days I believe are correct, and we'll just spend the next 9 years disagreeing on the subject.
