NSW DOCS - Can Mother's New Boyfriend be Charged?

[Helga]

Mother, 34-year-old, is engaged to an 18-year-old who blew smoke into her 12 & 13-year-old's faces while she was in their bedroom with them.

Can he be charged? And if so, with what? And all she said was "don't tell dad"?

Police have been notified and so have DOCS.

 

[AllForHer]

What evidence do you have that the incident took place?

 

[Helga]

We have the testimony of the 2 kids. The 12 & 13-year-olds

 

[Helga]

One lives with us, one lives with her. The one that lived with her said it's happened that many times he's lost count.

The police also questioned them and said if it went to court they would have to testify.

 

[sammy01]

Your best bet is to communicate with the ex about your concerns and do it via email... That way you have an evidence trial and by putting it in writing you're putting her on notice.

Is there any chance the one who lives with her would consider living with you?

Just checking - do you mean pot or tobacco?

 

[Helga]

Marijuana. And we have 7 kids to think about, the youngest being 3 that lives with her.

There is no point in communicating with her as she is more concerned about the 18-year-old and partying with him. She also neglected to take the 13-year-old to the hospital when he had a suspected broken nose. We had to drive and pick him up, and all she said to us was to "get over it".

 

[sammy01]

OK, the communication isn't about her hearing the message - let her ignore it... The communication is about you having documented evidence that you had concerns and communicated them to her.

 

[sammy01]

Do you have court orders?

Apart from the smoke thing do you have any other concerns?

Just a thought - go speak to the doctor. Ask for the kids to be drug tested, or at very least find out if the doctor could sort that for you. That way you could write to her and say:

Dear ex,

Please be advised that you're concerned about some of the info the kids have communicated and that if it were to continue, you would consider having the kids drug tested and if it came back positive you would be raising it with the authorities....

One thing to know - if the doctor agreed and a drug screen came back positive, the doctor would have a legal obligation to notify the relevant state authoriites. Hopefully, it won't come to that and she will just have a chat to the boy about smoking drugs near your kids.