Make sure you know the distinction between major long-term decisions that you both have a say in, and day to day decisions that only the parent with whom the child is spending time has a say in.
Religious affiliation, education, relocation, change to name and major medical interventions are major long-term decisions.
What the child eats, what the child wears, who the child hangs out with and where the child goes are day-to-day decisions.
You don't need to disclose day to day decisions, and I would suggest not doing so because all it will provide is more things to complain about.
Don't be afraid of mediation. It's better to discuss issues in a controlled environment because you can say "I am not discussing that because it's a day to day decision" and the mediator won't pressure you to do so. You also don't have to sign anything on the day, you can take it home to consider and decide whether you agree or want to consider it further. It's totally up to you.
Religious affiliation, education, relocation, change to name and major medical interventions are major long-term decisions.
What the child eats, what the child wears, who the child hangs out with and where the child goes are day-to-day decisions.
You don't need to disclose day to day decisions, and I would suggest not doing so because all it will provide is more things to complain about.
Don't be afraid of mediation. It's better to discuss issues in a controlled environment because you can say "I am not discussing that because it's a day to day decision" and the mediator won't pressure you to do so. You also don't have to sign anything on the day, you can take it home to consider and decide whether you agree or want to consider it further. It's totally up to you.