Hello there. I had an incident which occurred recently where my ex (well we only just started dating again) assaulted my friend at my house. I had invited him over to catch up, he had saw I had friend over but didn't know who it was. As my friend was leaving, he came through the gate at him with fits clenched and started to punch him. My friend defended himself and told him to leave . My ex was verbally assaulting me and my friend and I was trying to difuse the situation. The police came and he got charged with assault. Now he is justifying the reason attacking my friend because he says he had raped me, and was very enraged when he saw it was him with me. Though this is not correct, as he was angry at me before he knew my friend was over at my house. When my ex I were getting back together I told him I had been intimate with my friend after a big night out. It was a very very drunken night and I don't remember much due to being very wasted. My guy friend wasn't as intoxicated as me. I remember having sex with him, threw flashes but not the whole event. I felt in the morning regret about my actions as I know I wouldn't of had sex with him if I was in a sober state, and it was my responsibly being so wasted in the first place. Cause he is a friend I've known for a very long time I didn't see it as rape?. Though when I told my ex, he saw it as rape.. He is going to say to the court that is why he openly attacked my guy friend. My ex has a current dvo against him and in the past has had another dvo and been charged with assault of police officer and found guilty, though only had to pay a fine not a jail sentence. I'm wondering how this charge now will effect him? And what I should do if he brings up that I was raped? Will I need to make a statement? Does what he is saying have any justification against his actions? And how the court will see that, if I have to explain what happened that night with my friend? I feel very much under pressure, for I feel if it does seem like rape my friend will get charged? And if not my ex might be sent to jail for his violent actions. Thanks for your advice.