Hi Luke here,
I was recently served with an IVO from my ex girlfriend. We broke up 18months ago and I have had a very difficult time mentally trying to deal with it. I have seen doctors and I speak with psychologists. We agreed that if we felt like we would think about self harm we would contact each other.
I have been wanting to get back but she has made it quite clear that she does not want me. For a few days I was very close to ending my life and just wanted to hear her voice. She blocked me but I did leave a couple voice messages. Nothing threatening, I just said that I missed her and I was feeling very suicidal and wanted some help. I didn’t hear anything so yes I did call a couple more times. Once it became clear that she would not respond I called her for the last time saying I would not longer contact her and was sorry for the calls.
I was then contacted by the police and they gave me the court documents and interim order. I broke down in tears and even the officer had a long chat with me telling me that it’s common and no one is worth ending your life. I owe him a great deal.
However in the order she has stated that I have been calling her and trying to contact her through social media. Each time more emotional (TRUE) and I accept responsibility for those actions.
BUT she also states that I have been driving past her and her parents home in the middle of the night. Then says that the calls are often when she is alone which she then says makes her feel that I’m drive past her house. UNTRUE
I have not been near her house in more than 18 months because she dumped me at my home.. and its for her to say that I do drive past then says she feels I do is very contradicting.
These false claims she has made has had a great impact on my mental health made me feel worse then I did before because I am being accused of being a stalker.
I fully accept the things that I did do but I am devastated with the false claims. Can I do anything? Ask for a written apology in court after owning the things I actually did? Is there a legal case I could make against her mental damage she has done? would appreciate your help and I am sorry for the insanely long post
I was recently served with an IVO from my ex girlfriend. We broke up 18months ago and I have had a very difficult time mentally trying to deal with it. I have seen doctors and I speak with psychologists. We agreed that if we felt like we would think about self harm we would contact each other.
I have been wanting to get back but she has made it quite clear that she does not want me. For a few days I was very close to ending my life and just wanted to hear her voice. She blocked me but I did leave a couple voice messages. Nothing threatening, I just said that I missed her and I was feeling very suicidal and wanted some help. I didn’t hear anything so yes I did call a couple more times. Once it became clear that she would not respond I called her for the last time saying I would not longer contact her and was sorry for the calls.
I was then contacted by the police and they gave me the court documents and interim order. I broke down in tears and even the officer had a long chat with me telling me that it’s common and no one is worth ending your life. I owe him a great deal.
However in the order she has stated that I have been calling her and trying to contact her through social media. Each time more emotional (TRUE) and I accept responsibility for those actions.
BUT she also states that I have been driving past her and her parents home in the middle of the night. Then says that the calls are often when she is alone which she then says makes her feel that I’m drive past her house. UNTRUE
I have not been near her house in more than 18 months because she dumped me at my home.. and its for her to say that I do drive past then says she feels I do is very contradicting.
These false claims she has made has had a great impact on my mental health made me feel worse then I did before because I am being accused of being a stalker.
I fully accept the things that I did do but I am devastated with the false claims. Can I do anything? Ask for a written apology in court after owning the things I actually did? Is there a legal case I could make against her mental damage she has done? would appreciate your help and I am sorry for the insanely long post