ive been in a de facto relationship for the past 30 years and we have two adult children in their early 20's that are living at home. the relationship had been deteriorating for the last 5 years but the last attempt to resolve the issues/ the end of the relationship was almost two years ago. my partner did not want me to work from the time we had our first child which has meant he has had financial control over everything throughout the relationship. there are a couple of investment properties with one being my future residence however my ex parter keeps delaying/ prolonging the settlement of property. I cannot wait any longer to move on however I cannot speak to him without fear as he can be very aggressive and he has made it clear that no one can force him into giving me anything so that I can have my own life. i just want to know where to begin the process of separation, do i see any lawyer? what if my ex patner will not agree? and given that we have investment properties in joint names; if he does not want to sell them how will i get my share ?