We haven't heard from child support which is odd, but I figured that was due to us having orders for shared care still. However, child is diagnosed ASD so mum is on the carers pension, has carers allowance, family tax A and B and child support. I'm gonna guess it's the risk of losing all that which is a motivating factor. But in all honesty she's always had the 'it's my son i make the rules' attitude.
What I forgot to mention last night was as soon as we told the child we weren't taking him home, he completely relaxed. Gave us cuddles and a kiss on the cheek each. Then as we went to leave he called out to my partner, we turned around and he had stood up with his arms wide and asked for a cuddle. My parent said of course and he ran and jumped into a bear hug.
This seemed to really confuse the teachers. I'm sure they'ves been informed were abusive, but what child that's been abused does that? He isn't scared of us, he's scared of getting trouble for going with us. The special needs teacher present followed us out and agreed something isn't right and asked for us to see if the courts can help. This is out of their expertise and experience.
What I forgot to mention last night was as soon as we told the child we weren't taking him home, he completely relaxed. Gave us cuddles and a kiss on the cheek each. Then as we went to leave he called out to my partner, we turned around and he had stood up with his arms wide and asked for a cuddle. My parent said of course and he ran and jumped into a bear hug.
This seemed to really confuse the teachers. I'm sure they'ves been informed were abusive, but what child that's been abused does that? He isn't scared of us, he's scared of getting trouble for going with us. The special needs teacher present followed us out and agreed something isn't right and asked for us to see if the courts can help. This is out of their expertise and experience.