Quick fact background: Ex and I are still in FCC, high conflict case. She did numerous false allegations on me in the past and has been repeatedly telling child that daddy is a bad guy, daddy bullies mommy, or daddy's dog is dangerous/disgusting/stupid, etc. The reason I know is because she in numerous occasions directly rages at me and accused me of such, made threats to call police or see me further in court, even in front of the child. She even replied in one of her lawyer letters saying that child (3 yr old back then) figured it out himself that I bullied her because I did not give her money.
When our child (currently 5) returns to her place or when she video chats with child, she'd ask child a lot of questions about what the child did or did not do, had or did not have at my place, what food, what activity, what book(s), what exercises, eating sugar, etc. This goes to the point that her entire video chat session was she asking all these questions from the beginning to the end, and on the very next day when child goes to her place she'd ask many questions again, then emailed me saying that child was not able to recall what he did or eat besides A, B, C, D, E, F... and asked me to answer if child did or had G, H, I, J, K, and ask me to provide evidence.
She has attempted to judge my parenting based on the info she got from Child, threatened to change parenting order as result simply because she didn't like what child had told her. I feel that her current conduct:
What would be the appropriate and rational approach to address this? Can I simply email her saying something like "if you have questions, ask me directly instead of asking child, and I will respond you if they are appropriate and relevant." or am I being too sensitive and risk her claiming that I am the un-cooperative parent in the court?
When our child (currently 5) returns to her place or when she video chats with child, she'd ask child a lot of questions about what the child did or did not do, had or did not have at my place, what food, what activity, what book(s), what exercises, eating sugar, etc. This goes to the point that her entire video chat session was she asking all these questions from the beginning to the end, and on the very next day when child goes to her place she'd ask many questions again, then emailed me saying that child was not able to recall what he did or eat besides A, B, C, D, E, F... and asked me to answer if child did or had G, H, I, J, K, and ask me to provide evidence.
She has attempted to judge my parenting based on the info she got from Child, threatened to change parenting order as result simply because she didn't like what child had told her. I feel that her current conduct:
- may causes anxiety to the child, or slowly causes child to falsely feel that being with daddy is dangerous,
- making me wonder if she is genuinely care about child or simply trying to interrogate child so that she can use some info against me.
What would be the appropriate and rational approach to address this? Can I simply email her saying something like "if you have questions, ask me directly instead of asking child, and I will respond you if they are appropriate and relevant." or am I being too sensitive and risk her claiming that I am the un-cooperative parent in the court?
