Unfortunately not we have 50/50 shared care of my 2 boys. 12 & 15. 15 year old has a job also and hubby and I both work full time. Mum has never worked so it would be far more visible if mum moves. Mum has no family around her she has isolated herself from all her family. She moved to where she is now as she has a sister there but they have not spoken for about 2 years now.
we would be happy to have 50/50 if she moved closer but we would ask for sole parental responsibility for health care and education.
Well I do actually have a case where father was ordered to move from Wollongong. Dad wanted full time but couldn’t get it past due to no risks. Mother was happy to do 50/50 she worked and dad didn’t so dad was ordered to move by a certain date so 50/50 care could come into effect before the schooling year.
ok so is seeking primary care achievable in your world? Getting mum to move closer to you guys? NOPE, no court is gonna order that. NO CHANCE
Look it is a stretch. Changing parenting tends to be a big deal. I don't like my advice sometimes. But just missing school (lots) isn't gonna cut it, getting the kids to deliver drugs around the neighbourhood would be worth a go. But I reckon you give it a shot anyways. Do mediation, watch it fail.... Then apply to court. Maybe mum will cave in. (good). If not you'll get orders for alternate weekends, with mum doing half the travel and half holidays.
Worth a shot.
Please tell me he is paying child support and nothing else - please.
Yes full time care is achievable in our world, since COVID I now work from home full time. Only have to go in the office every now and then.
I agree I think it is worth a shot, we can’t get any less than what we have now.
yes dad pays child support, when we met he used to pay that and a whole lot more. I soon put a stop to that. Lol.
This could be a problem ^^^
It's become fairly clear just on the information you have provided that mum has some kind of an issue with being separated from these kids... Chances are there is some kind of mental health issue (again based only on what you have written)... If that is the case, then just be aware that while you may be successful in getting interim orders that allow for a great deal more than the current 3 hours a FN of visits with mum present, in the absence of any agreement or leading toward a contested hearing, it's very likley that a family consultant will be required to file a report..
Dad has an excellent chance of getting a good amount of extra contact time via court, but he needs to be totally on board with all this & believe that the end result will justify the process... It's admirable that you are laying the groundwork, but having a new partner heavily involved in the process can cause friction & road blocks with the ex at the best of times ..... if he is not totally on board, it may even cause friction in your own relationship. Just a point worth you considering.
Dad is totally onboard he has finally come to terms with the fact that no matter how much he tries and how amicable he wants it to be it’s not going to change unless he forces it to change. I’m in the background helping because dad needs help and reassurance that the courts won’t leave it the way it is. It’s getting his confidence which is great.
as for me the new partner and the ex. I am willing to meet and work with mum for the best interest of the kids. I’m the type of person that will happily go to dinner as a joint family because it is what kids need. They need to see that there is no reason for everyone no to get along, they should never be put in a position where they feel that they have to choose or go into protection mode from one parent.
