Hi everyone,
I've been divorced for 7 years now, but still have a very rocky time with my ex husband. We have equal shared parental responsibility, but last week my kids told me their dad had sent them to afterschool care. He hadn't communicated with me at all about it, and as far as I'm concerned, this is one of the things that comes under the things that need a joint decision. Our orders do even specify "day care or after school enrollment".
I asked him for details of what was happening and he ignored me, so I went to the center who at first refused to give me any information as they told me their records didn't show I was a parent of the children. I showed her our court orders and she then gave me a copy of the enrollment form which had their father and his current girlfriend down as the 2 parents of the children (he had put step-mother in the relationship box for her). I wasn't even included as an emergency contact.
I challenged him with this information and told him he had broken the orders, as we should have made the decision together, and I should be down on the enrollment forms for emergency situations, and so I can access details about the children's progress there. He told me it doesn't come under the joint responsibility, as he is only sending them there when they are with him, and I'm not paying for it. He's refusing to add me to the enrollment saying it's none of my business. He's even refusing to do mediation about our different interpretations of the orders, repeatedly telling me to see a lawyer, which I can't really afford.
Can someone just give me a nod in the right direction, am I over-interpreting the orders? Or does this come under things that we should make a joint decision about?
Thanks
I've been divorced for 7 years now, but still have a very rocky time with my ex husband. We have equal shared parental responsibility, but last week my kids told me their dad had sent them to afterschool care. He hadn't communicated with me at all about it, and as far as I'm concerned, this is one of the things that comes under the things that need a joint decision. Our orders do even specify "day care or after school enrollment".
I asked him for details of what was happening and he ignored me, so I went to the center who at first refused to give me any information as they told me their records didn't show I was a parent of the children. I showed her our court orders and she then gave me a copy of the enrollment form which had their father and his current girlfriend down as the 2 parents of the children (he had put step-mother in the relationship box for her). I wasn't even included as an emergency contact.
I challenged him with this information and told him he had broken the orders, as we should have made the decision together, and I should be down on the enrollment forms for emergency situations, and so I can access details about the children's progress there. He told me it doesn't come under the joint responsibility, as he is only sending them there when they are with him, and I'm not paying for it. He's refusing to add me to the enrollment saying it's none of my business. He's even refusing to do mediation about our different interpretations of the orders, repeatedly telling me to see a lawyer, which I can't really afford.
Can someone just give me a nod in the right direction, am I over-interpreting the orders? Or does this come under things that we should make a joint decision about?
Thanks