I have two sons who I have access and weekend stay overs with, however my 10 year old (11 in June 2014) doesn't want to live with his father and wishes to live with my partner and I. His father says he can't live with me (his mother) until he is 18. How old can a child be to make such a decision legally? There is a court order in place however there is nothing in there that answers this question. The father refuses to do shared care even though we live in the same town. What steps can I put into place here?