G'day, My wife 2 weeks ago, pulled the plug on our marriage. We have been together in total for 14 years, with 2 beautiful kids. She has been planning this for 3 years and it left me dumb struck. I missed all the vital warnings signs which were glaringly obvious to me now. I asked for a second chance but was to be told it's 100% over. She eventually admitted "the grass is greener on the other side" was to appealing and wants to have "hot s*x" with other "nice" men in our small local community. She also admitted she has started smoking drugs again on occasions. Yes, I accept blame and was an arsehole towards her sometimes as she was to me, now with reflection on my side, it wasn't a happy marriage. I honestly thought though at the time we had a normal marriage. I am after help or sites I can research to see what my chances are of becoming the primary carer would be. I spent the bulk of my time as the bread winner and the past 7ish years she worked part time and caring for the kids (Now 10 and 12). She has her chef certificate and despite asking periodically for her to go back to as it pays well, she would start crying and say no as she hates it, so I'd give up and soldier on with jobs that i hated. I see now where some my frustration built up from. I would love the opportunity to become primary carer and work part time. She would become the main breadwinner, but have full access 24/7, have sleepovers, come for breakfast, etc. I have told her parents they can have access anytime as well, I don't want to use the kids as bargaining chips to get back at her. I just want the chance to care for my kids in their last half of their childhood before leaving home. Or should I settle for 50/50 custody of children and just suck it up and accept my losses? Thanks.