You can draw up "parenting orders" privately which stipulate what the parenting arrangements you agree on are. It would say things like "mother has sole parental responsibility"; "child lives with the mother" etc. It may be worth getting sample orders to have an idea what goes into them. However, the others on the thread are right. You can never include thing that would prevent the child having a relationship with their parent - that is the right of the child and you don't get to make that choice. What you can do is make arrangements via the orders about the care of the child. Once you are both agreed on this, once the child is born you can apply to court to get those parenting orders made consent orders which effectively makes them orders of court.
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