Brief history... I became 'accidentally' pregnant to a friend/flatmate...we were never in a 'relationship'. We lived together for about 9 months. Throughout this time there were incidences of violence/abuse (physical, sexual, emotional, financial). There were several violent outbursts from him where he would destroy property. One such time he completely destroyed the property we were in, he physically assaulted me, locked us both in my room not allowing me to leave. I did manage to get out and went to the police but was too scared to even have them come to the property. I was 'stuck' not knowing who to go to for help, thus alienating myself from EVERYONE. Intimidation, fear and threats continue to this day. I only once applied for an AVO after he 'allegedly' assaulted me when I was 25 weeks pregnant out of fear (he threatened that if I went ahead the unborn child would be taken from me) and begging from his mother I did not go ahead (I was at the court and everything, but too scared to proceed). The child is now 9 years old. After child's birth, through fear, being stuck, I remained 'friends' with him. I'd stupidly been conned into taking out a car loan under my name for him, to break the friendship would've meant my being liable for payments which I could not afford...I had no one else, didn't want to be alone, I was being threatened. At around 3 years of age, his paternity was proven via a DNA testing. Again, through fear and threats of child being taken from me, I allowed him to see child. I would drive to his mothers house, I would be there during these times although they were few. Again, through fear and intimidation, I allowed him to have child overnight on a few occasions. These I stopped for fear I'd not get child back or that child was not being cared for properly. He moved interstate which provided a welcome break but he would demand to see child when he returned. Again, I allowed this...only a few times. First few times his mother drove then he turned up without mother, driving. He is an epileptic (he will deny this) and self medicates (he will deny this). I know he would not have disclosed this information when applying for a drivers licence which he had 'lost' for reasons I do not know....for all the time I lived with him, he didn't have a licence yet drove, using stolen number plates (which I reported to police who did nothing as they had to catch him actually driving to do anything). Anyway, I specifically asked that he not drive due to his epilepsy, I was concerned for the safety of my child which is and always has been my main concern in regards to him. He agreed, had someone else drive on pick up but on drop off, he was driving. From this point on I told him that he was no longer allowed to see child as he'd willingly endangered them in my eyes. That was almost 5 years ago. There has been almost no contact from him, a few text messages. He now has a girlfriend, and is suddenly interested in access to child. This seems to be a pattern, only interested in being a 'father' when there is a new girlfriend I assume. He has now gone to Family Relationships Australia. He is demanding custody of children, he says he's guaranteed joint custody. His girlfriend has contacted my workplace pretending to be a lawyer demanding from staff to speak to me in regards to a legal matter, she has also texted me in regards to this also. Again, due to threats, I have never applied for child support. He has never paid any, never offered, never made any contribution of any sort in regards to parenting. Over the years I have made calls to them to initiate collection and have started online applications, but through fear and what he threatens me with I never go ahead. I feel now that I am going to be forced to hand over my child to a stranger/s should this go to court as I am now being forced to go through mediation with him. I have told my child that he wants to see them, and asked how they feel about this. My child has indicated they do not want to see him and do not consider him as their father. Child has indicated they're afraid they'll never come back if they have to go. Again, I'm very afraid at what the future may hold in this matter, that my child will be forced to go with people they do not know, that in allowing this to happen I am breaking their trust in caring and protecting them from harm. I'm tired of being threatened by this person, it's a long and ridiculous story and I feel so ashamed for having allowed myself to become trapped by such a person, I am especially ashamed that I have brought a child into the world who will undoubtedly suffer. I understand that Family Law and Courts state that biological parents are required to shared responsibility for a child until they're 18....where do I stand on this matter and what are my child's rights in regards to this matter? My child is my priority and in the end I have to deal with what he's put me through on my own but my child's safety, happiness and protection are ultimate in this situation. He is not named on the birth certificate and this I wish to not take place.