Ok, I don't really know where to start here but my husband is in a bit of a mess and I don't know what to do. He has potentially 2 kids with his ex ( DNA testing is pending for the last child) and he hasn't had much contact with them as the mother is being extremely difficult and she doesn't want him to get any custody of children as she doesn't want her child support or parenting payments to be reduced. He's never met his last child as she won't let him and he's been to lawyers in the past about getting custody, to which they told him if it goes to family court, it could cost up to $40k, which isn't the kind of money we have. I just need to talk to someone who has dealt with this before. I don't know the first thing about it.