My son's father has not seen him in over a year. There are no family court orders as he has chosen to stay away anyway. My son doesn't know any of his family. My family, he sees every day. Under Family Law, if something happens to me and I die, would my son automatically be handed over to a man that he does not know, has had no interest in him, has a history of violence? If I made a will, stating my son is to be cared for by my family, would it be honored or would my ex automatically be able to have it thrown out?