My partner and his ex broke up some time ago. They spent a few years in family court where he was given every second weekend and half school holidays access. He has accepted this although it is not ideal.
His son, now 9, has been wanting to come and live with his dad for a long time now. The mother finally let him come and stay. The orders were not changed by the court, but they signed a letter between the two of them where a JP witnessed and signed.
It states that the boy can live with his father, and the orders that they have been following are now reversed so this now is the mother has second weekend and half school holidays and the father being primary carer. It has only been 5 weeks, and during this time, the boy has been enrolled in his new school, which he loves. But the school has asked for his medication as he is a little out of control at school. He is disruptive, stealing and his knowledge of school work is less that what a grade child should know.
We are not sure how he ever got to grade 4 as he knows nothing. This weekend was his weekend with his mum. Before he went away for the weekend he had some things taken away as he has been naughty at school. He is also rude, disrespectful and plain nasty. He unfortunately seems to know how to manipulate people and speaks terribly.
So he went away for the weekend, my partner drove 3 hours to pick him up on Sunday, and when he got there he arrived to his son telling him to get lost and he is not coming home. After trying to get to the bottom of it and the mother being of no help he drove home without him.
The boy was booked in to see a doctor to get diagnosed. We are not wanting to have him drugged, but we need to know what we are dealing with whether it be ADHD, autism, Dyslexia. We just want to help him.
But now we have called the mother and she has decided that the boy will not be coming back as it is not what the boy expected to be (he now has structure and discipline in his life). The mother also does not want him diagnosed and said the father needs, it not the boy. She said the paper she signed is worth nothing and she can take him whenever she wants as per the original orders.
She has also moved further away since the boy lived with his dad. We think this was the plan, as the dad would never allow her to move further away and it seems she did this recently after giving the boy up and now taken him back. Surely that document they both signed and witnessed by a JP would hold some weight.
Also the boy needs help. He was such a beautiful loving boy and now he is so rude and seems to have no respect for anyone unless he is getting his own way. I feel this is all because of his illness and he has no structure at home.
Need help and what we can do to get him back and get him help. Maybe also stop his mother taking him for weekends as he comes back so different. Please any help on what we can do is most appreciated.
His son, now 9, has been wanting to come and live with his dad for a long time now. The mother finally let him come and stay. The orders were not changed by the court, but they signed a letter between the two of them where a JP witnessed and signed.
It states that the boy can live with his father, and the orders that they have been following are now reversed so this now is the mother has second weekend and half school holidays and the father being primary carer. It has only been 5 weeks, and during this time, the boy has been enrolled in his new school, which he loves. But the school has asked for his medication as he is a little out of control at school. He is disruptive, stealing and his knowledge of school work is less that what a grade child should know.
We are not sure how he ever got to grade 4 as he knows nothing. This weekend was his weekend with his mum. Before he went away for the weekend he had some things taken away as he has been naughty at school. He is also rude, disrespectful and plain nasty. He unfortunately seems to know how to manipulate people and speaks terribly.
So he went away for the weekend, my partner drove 3 hours to pick him up on Sunday, and when he got there he arrived to his son telling him to get lost and he is not coming home. After trying to get to the bottom of it and the mother being of no help he drove home without him.
The boy was booked in to see a doctor to get diagnosed. We are not wanting to have him drugged, but we need to know what we are dealing with whether it be ADHD, autism, Dyslexia. We just want to help him.
But now we have called the mother and she has decided that the boy will not be coming back as it is not what the boy expected to be (he now has structure and discipline in his life). The mother also does not want him diagnosed and said the father needs, it not the boy. She said the paper she signed is worth nothing and she can take him whenever she wants as per the original orders.
She has also moved further away since the boy lived with his dad. We think this was the plan, as the dad would never allow her to move further away and it seems she did this recently after giving the boy up and now taken him back. Surely that document they both signed and witnessed by a JP would hold some weight.
Also the boy needs help. He was such a beautiful loving boy and now he is so rude and seems to have no respect for anyone unless he is getting his own way. I feel this is all because of his illness and he has no structure at home.
Need help and what we can do to get him back and get him help. Maybe also stop his mother taking him for weekends as he comes back so different. Please any help on what we can do is most appreciated.