Rod, the reason we need to do consent orders is because the savings we have is held in a term deposit until 12th August (Cannot access it).
We have 2 joint accounts, 1 being used for everyday(Not of big concern), the other a term deposit. ($80k to be split 50/50)
I went to the bank a number of weeks ago, finding out what options we had as to release the money early.
Essentially, it was up to the branch manager's discretion, and he refused unless I could get a letter from Immigration stating that I would have 28 days to leave the country due to my visa situation, and even then, he said he couldn't guarantee an early release. (Asking Immigration for any sort of documentation is in my experience always time consuming, and in this instance time isn't on my side).
Then, naturally he put a freeze on the account because it's a joint account and there's a dispute.
This then requires 2 signatures upon the release date. Since I won't be in the country there's no way I can sign it. I can't trust her to take the money out and send me half.
I'm dealing with an ex who has all the financial support in the world, and is heart-set on making my life as difficult as possible. Not sure how to put it to be politically correct, but with her beliefs this money is of little to no value to her. About 3 weeks ago she said she was happy to write the money off and let the bank have it.
Then when she went to the bank (different branch) they told her I had applied to release the funds early and I was going to run off with all the money and it was a case of whoever gets there 1st. (Not true and not sure how she got that response). Then all of a sudden, I got a call from her and she wanted to arrange to get the money out because she didn't want me to have all of it. I told her the only way we could do it was getting a solicitor to take the money and split it, she agreed.
The day after my solicitor sent the paperwork asking for her comment she contacted me telling me she doesn't agree with some of it. She wouldn't elaborate and just said "my lawyer will send you a letter and if you don't agree i won't sign anything and if you want we can go to court". I'm still waiting on her response which is why I couldn't reply to Atticus above.
In all the time this has been going on, she has contacted 2 of my family members on Facebook, accusing me of having a child back home (not true). I can't help but laugh, I mean she has completely lost her mind. For me, it's about getting my fair share (50/50) and moving on with my life. For her, I have come to many conclusions but essentially she's just fighting me every step of the way to prolong this.
I am due to fly home next week, and after budgeting money for this I will be back living at my parents with around $1000 to live on until this is sorted out. If the solicitor asks for more money I will have to put this off until I gather the funds to continue. I want this sorted ASAP but it feels like she thinks it's a game.
Sorry if that sounds like a rant, consider it context.