I've been separated from my children's father for over two years. He has refused to see or talk to his children for nearly 18 months. Unfortunately, he suffers from a mental health illness and abuses prescription medication with alcohol for his condition. Family court orders were never put in place when he left. I would like to get one in order to protect our children knowing that he is getting worse. He is displaying more illogical and irrational behaviour. How do I get one? I fear if I start proceedings with his knowledge, that this will be the catalyst that will make him snap. Do I leave it how it is and not get one and hope he continues to ignore his children while mentally unstable or do I get one and stir up a hornets nest? Are there special circumstances that I can apply without his knowledge due to the fear of his mental illness? Thank you in advance for any advice.