Its not productive, especially regarding medical decisions. Our child needs to see a bunch of specialists and its just been very difficult to put in anything, get referrals and actually get our child booked in as he had refused every place our child had been given an appointment because I didn't ask him before accepting it... like I just want to understand why, if we had been waiting for a long time to get an appointment, and I had provided him with a copy of the referral letter thatvshows on the letter where he has been referred to, and he has accepted that and knows I will get a phone call when they have an available appointment, why am I am suddenly in the wrong for accepting it?
I always try calling and messaging but he does not respond as he is always at work. So I accept, let the receptionist know I may have to change it, let him know I accepted the appointment but the option is there to change it and I am still in the wrong... its medical care... its not choosing a venue for a birthday party. I also receive this in situations where he has been responsible for booking certain appointments near his residence and I have asked the status of it. The conversation goes either 3 ways.
- If the conversation is about appointments - Responds by telling me he has found a Dr and needs to book and I ask who and where so I can add to the calendar and ensure I have funds available to cover half of any private fees and he starts with calling me controlling, checking up on him, being pushy and aggressive, being horrible to him, not respecting him and that when he finds a Dr he will tell me and then cuts contact for a few days. So he found a Dr, won't give me details, cracks a tanty that I asked then says he hadn't found a Dr yet... why... is unnecessary.
- If I have asked when he is getting a repeat of a specific test that was needed that he obtained during his care, he informs me that he won't be carrying it out as he because he didn't think it was necessary and nor did his other. When I express that it was probably necessary and we should take him to get the test given the situation in which it was ordered and that we were waiting to a respiratory specialist as our child has been sick since he was not returned to my care. I get the same treatment. Eg - repeat xray for RSV (the time he took him to ED for respiratory distress and didn't tell me, his reason was it slipped his mind... but he was on messenger having a go at me for not following his instructions of vicks, tank tops and shower steam when I had, and not believing him about asthma, in which i never said I didn't believe him, I had just said we shouldn't jump to conclusions based on my ex having asthma, while there is a chance of course, at the time when a child is young and their immune systems are developing, they catch everything. The time stamps on the discharge paperwork is how I know this and all he had said was he was really sick and I had suggested he take him to the Dr and push for tests and sent his some common viruses that toddlers get frequently and said have a read and if he thought the symptoms were consistent with any of them to seek the tests as it was the only thing I could offer as he wasn't in my care).
I always try calling and messaging but he does not respond as he is always at work. So I accept, let the receptionist know I may have to change it, let him know I accepted the appointment but the option is there to change it and I am still in the wrong... its medical care... its not choosing a venue for a birthday party. I also receive this in situations where he has been responsible for booking certain appointments near his residence and I have asked the status of it. The conversation goes either 3 ways.
- If the conversation is about appointments - Responds by telling me he has found a Dr and needs to book and I ask who and where so I can add to the calendar and ensure I have funds available to cover half of any private fees and he starts with calling me controlling, checking up on him, being pushy and aggressive, being horrible to him, not respecting him and that when he finds a Dr he will tell me and then cuts contact for a few days. So he found a Dr, won't give me details, cracks a tanty that I asked then says he hadn't found a Dr yet... why... is unnecessary.
- If I have asked when he is getting a repeat of a specific test that was needed that he obtained during his care, he informs me that he won't be carrying it out as he because he didn't think it was necessary and nor did his other. When I express that it was probably necessary and we should take him to get the test given the situation in which it was ordered and that we were waiting to a respiratory specialist as our child has been sick since he was not returned to my care. I get the same treatment. Eg - repeat xray for RSV (the time he took him to ED for respiratory distress and didn't tell me, his reason was it slipped his mind... but he was on messenger having a go at me for not following his instructions of vicks, tank tops and shower steam when I had, and not believing him about asthma, in which i never said I didn't believe him, I had just said we shouldn't jump to conclusions based on my ex having asthma, while there is a chance of course, at the time when a child is young and their immune systems are developing, they catch everything. The time stamps on the discharge paperwork is how I know this and all he had said was he was really sick and I had suggested he take him to the Dr and push for tests and sent his some common viruses that toddlers get frequently and said have a read and if he thought the symptoms were consistent with any of them to seek the tests as it was the only thing I could offer as he wasn't in my care).