SA Chances of ex being granted recovery orders or denied?

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GlassHalfFull

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Well can I just say well done Concernedmum for accepting Sammy's feedback in good faith and without getting overly defensive. I haven't read every detail of all 3 pages so I don't want to form any solid opinions of my own on the situation, but I did read his first few comments on the first page and he's absolutely right, Child Protection would need to do an investigation or at least a preliminary investigation before making any official recommendations. I've got my own issues with Victorian Child Protection and their lack of self-reflection and ability to be impartial and fair given a particularly bad experience with them a few years ago, but at least they interviewed me and advised me themselves in person that they did not want me to have my children unsupervised until such times as their investigation was completed. So at least I heard it from the horse's mouth so to speak. Child Protection don't usually make recommendations to one parent without being involved and knowledgeable about the details of the case. However, what Child Protection seem to enjoy doing is substantiating 'risk' (not actually investigate and make factual findings about what has happened, just announcing the 'risk' of something happening or 'likelihood' of having already occurred) and then hanging in the wings putting pressure on the reporting parent to take necessary steps to 'protect' the children from abuse, and if that parent doesn't sufficiently protect the children, subtly implying that they may at risk of intervention by CP too. In that way, they can subtly influence the situation to keep parents in line without having to actually physically intervene.

That doesn't seem to be what's happening here though.
 

sammy01

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Ok another thought...
Offer dad a few 'long weekends' per year. In your letter to solicitor advise that the practical realities of the situation, especially the distance mean that shared parenting 50/50 isn't gonna work long term. But you appreciate dad wants to be actively involved with the child and as such maybe the kid could do 2-3 nights a fortnight as the routine, but dad has the opportunity to have 7 days straight during school time 4 times a year - one per school term, but he has the obligation to get the kid to and from school.

Discuss...
See that sounds more reasonable than you wanting dad to 'agree' to relinquishing parental responsibility... It makes it look like you're looking for solutions to make this work...
 

Concernedmum01

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Yeah, I did cover that.

I think I may have wasted my time doing it all. Had CSA call me about the debt he bas and what care etc. They casually mention that he said he had filed for court against me... I find this out 2 hours after I write something.

Then dad contacts me wants to know when he can seen toddler and how he is. Tell him when and to let me know, send a bunch of photos and no response at all.
 

sammy01

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Ok, there is a chance he is telling CSA he filed for court because that is a tactic to get them off your case (in the short term). Look if you write to solicitor offering reasonable consent orders he can withdraw court application.

I strongly advise you to seek to be nice. It isn't just good playground advice.... It will make you appear better in court AND long term, it is best for all concerned, especially the child...
 

Concernedmum01

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Ok. Sent the negotiations via registered post and email to lawyer, let him know.

Checked with the FCCoA and nothing has been filed but can call every couple days to keep checking if he tries ex parte so I can respond before it gets heard.

He asked for time, have offered time and schedule. So far he has read but no response. I had previously not responded to the threat he sent, I have a feeling he want hoping I would not respond again.