Hi,
For the sake of brevity, I will quickly outline what has happened. I left the house and decided to break up with my ex in July due to her being abusive, she was living with my mother and being financially supported by us up until September. In September she calculatingly invited me to sleep at the house (so I could drive our son to the doctors the next day), she came downstairs, forcefully woke me up at 5AM and started an argument. She was recording this argument via audio on her phone (which to my knowledge is illegal). I told her to 'f*** off' along with other expletives. She left the room after our argument, I slept for another 2 hrs then left the house at 7AM after she said we're not taking him to the doctors anymore. Another 2 hours later my mother calls me mortified that there are cops swarming our house. I came back, co-operated with the police completely, even as they took my son and her away in a cop car (I even gave them the baby car seat from my car). No threats of physical violence, I have no criminal history/record and even she was at least honest enough to tell the cops I've never committed any violence.
I have had the first mention and adjourned the ADVO for legal advice. I am set to return in 3 weeks to give my answer. I want to not consent, not just because this is all a load of crap, but also as this could screw with my WWCC and my background is working in psychology (with vulnerable teenagers). I can't afford lawyers though and legal aid is treating me like I'm a criminal (btw there are NO criminal charges with the ADVO, only the one mandatory order; no stalking, intimidating, etc).
I am ignorant regarding how the law works, but I feel like I have a pretty solid case. I have had free lawyer consultations and they've told me that all she has to prove is that she was scared, the odds are against me. Due to not being able to afford a lawyer, I am considering just representing myself at the hearing. She orchestrated all of this to get fast tracked permanent residency and complete control and leverage over our son. What should I do? Do I even have a fighting chance if I represent myself? This is the worst and most traumatic thing that's ever happened to me and it feels like there's no help available if you're a man.
For the sake of brevity, I will quickly outline what has happened. I left the house and decided to break up with my ex in July due to her being abusive, she was living with my mother and being financially supported by us up until September. In September she calculatingly invited me to sleep at the house (so I could drive our son to the doctors the next day), she came downstairs, forcefully woke me up at 5AM and started an argument. She was recording this argument via audio on her phone (which to my knowledge is illegal). I told her to 'f*** off' along with other expletives. She left the room after our argument, I slept for another 2 hrs then left the house at 7AM after she said we're not taking him to the doctors anymore. Another 2 hours later my mother calls me mortified that there are cops swarming our house. I came back, co-operated with the police completely, even as they took my son and her away in a cop car (I even gave them the baby car seat from my car). No threats of physical violence, I have no criminal history/record and even she was at least honest enough to tell the cops I've never committed any violence.
I have had the first mention and adjourned the ADVO for legal advice. I am set to return in 3 weeks to give my answer. I want to not consent, not just because this is all a load of crap, but also as this could screw with my WWCC and my background is working in psychology (with vulnerable teenagers). I can't afford lawyers though and legal aid is treating me like I'm a criminal (btw there are NO criminal charges with the ADVO, only the one mandatory order; no stalking, intimidating, etc).
I am ignorant regarding how the law works, but I feel like I have a pretty solid case. I have had free lawyer consultations and they've told me that all she has to prove is that she was scared, the odds are against me. Due to not being able to afford a lawyer, I am considering just representing myself at the hearing. She orchestrated all of this to get fast tracked permanent residency and complete control and leverage over our son. What should I do? Do I even have a fighting chance if I represent myself? This is the worst and most traumatic thing that's ever happened to me and it feels like there's no help available if you're a man.