Thanks in advance for any advice.
In a nutshell, after a separation once parenting orders are done, do I have to allow my ex partner to travel interstate (1800km away ) with the children for access? The ex in question is an abusive alcoholic, hence the separation.
I'm in the throes of separating and im certain my ex partner will relocate to a rural remote part of Australia where he has family. He will expect that I give the two children (a baby 9 months old and a 5 year old) to him for 3-4 weeks a year for access.
I don't want to make a giant post but I have grave concearns for the safety of the children should this occur. I know they'd be left with other family members to be looked after, there would be family gatherings with alcohol as well as other safety issues (they chastise me for putting kids in car seats, they would leave the children in a hot car to run into a shop, they let the children ride quad bikes with no helmets - all of these things observed by me). There are also family members on the premises who take drugs, one has an assult charge. He would also insist on driving them all that way, not flying. My time spent at these locations, we've gone on holidays, gave me grave concearns for the welfare of my kids if I'm not around.
I'd never restrict access to the children's father, but do I have to grant access to him to take them interstate? If he remains local, I won't restrict access, though id probably be cautious with overnight visits because of the alcohol factor.
Also, if he does plan to only see them once or twice a year, the youngest would essentially be going with someone they don't know well. I'm also concearned my daughter may well not want to go with him, they've never been separated from me.
What options would I have in this situation? I absolutely want the children to have a relationship with their father, but he is choosing to relocate a long way away. Do I have to accomodate that?
Thank you!
In a nutshell, after a separation once parenting orders are done, do I have to allow my ex partner to travel interstate (1800km away ) with the children for access? The ex in question is an abusive alcoholic, hence the separation.
I'm in the throes of separating and im certain my ex partner will relocate to a rural remote part of Australia where he has family. He will expect that I give the two children (a baby 9 months old and a 5 year old) to him for 3-4 weeks a year for access.
I don't want to make a giant post but I have grave concearns for the safety of the children should this occur. I know they'd be left with other family members to be looked after, there would be family gatherings with alcohol as well as other safety issues (they chastise me for putting kids in car seats, they would leave the children in a hot car to run into a shop, they let the children ride quad bikes with no helmets - all of these things observed by me). There are also family members on the premises who take drugs, one has an assult charge. He would also insist on driving them all that way, not flying. My time spent at these locations, we've gone on holidays, gave me grave concearns for the welfare of my kids if I'm not around.
I'd never restrict access to the children's father, but do I have to grant access to him to take them interstate? If he remains local, I won't restrict access, though id probably be cautious with overnight visits because of the alcohol factor.
Also, if he does plan to only see them once or twice a year, the youngest would essentially be going with someone they don't know well. I'm also concearned my daughter may well not want to go with him, they've never been separated from me.
What options would I have in this situation? I absolutely want the children to have a relationship with their father, but he is choosing to relocate a long way away. Do I have to accomodate that?
Thank you!