Hi there,
I'm not sure where this question might go, hopefully here is okay.
The question I have is, if one is getting stalked and severely harassed online from someone outside of Australia, can one seek help from Victorian police, or is this a case of "there's nothing we can do to help?"
Without delving into the disgusting depths of my very long and exhausting story, I have many friends in the US and one in particular has stalked me from LA for about 3 years now, even though I live in Australia. We share mutual friends, in real life, whom I've met in person, so it's not completely random.
I receive up to 350 messages and emails every single day from this man. Most people do the "just block him" thing, but he is clearly unstable, psychotic (he thinks we're married even though I haven't replied in years, and even before that we weren't that close at all, he is severely delusional).
I'm terrified to block him in case that pushes him to take further more serious action as he knows where I live and work even, so that doesn't stop him from signing up for different emails and social media accounts to continue the stalking etc, which I also have proof he's doing in attempts to provoke me (which he also admits in emails).
He has proceeded to stalk and gather photos of me (that not even I have saved, which are also private. He sends them to me to taunt me). He sends me screenshots of him stalking every family member's socials and every person I've ever been friends with/or follow or strangers I merely interact with, including innocent fans of my creative work.
I know his name, where he lives and I've retained every email and message as evidence (hence why I don't want to block him, as I want to keep his messages as proof).
I can't change my email or number as I use such for my business. He knows where I live and work (he sends creepy stuff to my house and constantly rings my workplace, despite me telling him not to years ago (no idea how he found out where I work).
He has nearly got me fired many times. He knows my exact weekly schedule, even speaks of boyfriends/girlfriends of distant relatives. He is obsessed and just never stops. I haven't actually replied to him for at least 2 whole years. I guess I thought he'd just get bored and give up, but it seems to be getting worse, nor have I encouraged him in any way at all, yet he continues to fabricate deranged stories about me, then believes them and abuses me for these wild made-up stories.
He seems very dangerous as the only times I've spoke to him, a year ago, was to tell him to stop and to leave me alone - that just made it worse as he doesn't believe he's doing anything wrong. He creates fake accounts and pretends to be people to get me to reply, and I can't be totally private due to my second day-job as a creative freelancer. He has basically destroyed my life.
Every morning I awake to a flood of abuse including horrific things he says he will be doing to me sexually "when he arrives in Australia", often sending me photos of plane tickets and telling me that I will have no choice and he will be with me forever whether I like it or not...
Honestly this is just my brief overview. I have over 12,000 messages saved from the past year, not including emails or the hundreds/thousands of calls I've never answered.
I haven't even bothered to go to the police as this isn't my first stalker. The other one was in Australia and they couldn't even do anything about it. I've been to the police a few times with serious issues in the past, and they never seem to be able to help, even with evidence, so I've just sort of lost faith and have just attempted to ignore it all, but I'm over having to deal with this every day of my life. As this man isn't living in Australia I assume there's nothing I can do?
I assume I can't even get in contact with LA police, so I'm just posting here as things have gotten so bad lately, he has destroyed my life in so many ways, and destroyed me as a person through his manipulation and emotional abuse to say the least. He also spreads lies amongst our mutual friends and making sure they won't be there to support me. I never speak or even look at any man out of fear he might find out, considering the horrific stuff he says he'll do to me for things I actually haven't even done.
Every person I show are just lost for words. People don't take it seriously because it's ''online'' but I know this man and his friends, and it really sucks that people get away with this sort of stuff just because there address is a little different.
I fear for my safety and will have to look at moving house and jobs just to feel safe, he has bluntly admitted to doing certain things to provoke me and told me to never tell anymore or *insert various horrible things he will do to me*...
I'm terrified to speak to people, I have anxiety attacks looking at my phone, every time I go on social media, I'm terrified to post something or merely like a tweet as I get severely abused for it. He's an actual psychopath - it's not even slightly okay behaviour, considering I've done nothing wrong and nothing to encourage him.
He's talking to me as if we're married, he's having conversations at me, about me, as if I'm actually replying, half the stuff he says I can't even understand anymore - it's not even making sense. I have every message and email saved. I'm talking nearly 20,000 messages sent in the past 2 years when I consider all social accounts he attempts to contact me on plus email etc, with thousands of calls etc.
I saw this happening to a man in the US, but the cyber-stalker was from the US and she went to jail or something. Is there anything one can do if it's the same case but involves someone living in another country? Do I literally have to wait until he comes to Australia and hurts/rapes me (like he says he will, aka threats) before the police can do something? Sorry if this is a little forward, sadly this isn't even the start of it.
Sorry this got a little long, it's a very messed up and in-depth story, few words can't even bring to describe.
Does anyone have any options?
Thank you in advance for any thoughts or help.
I'm not sure where this question might go, hopefully here is okay.
The question I have is, if one is getting stalked and severely harassed online from someone outside of Australia, can one seek help from Victorian police, or is this a case of "there's nothing we can do to help?"
Without delving into the disgusting depths of my very long and exhausting story, I have many friends in the US and one in particular has stalked me from LA for about 3 years now, even though I live in Australia. We share mutual friends, in real life, whom I've met in person, so it's not completely random.
I receive up to 350 messages and emails every single day from this man. Most people do the "just block him" thing, but he is clearly unstable, psychotic (he thinks we're married even though I haven't replied in years, and even before that we weren't that close at all, he is severely delusional).
I'm terrified to block him in case that pushes him to take further more serious action as he knows where I live and work even, so that doesn't stop him from signing up for different emails and social media accounts to continue the stalking etc, which I also have proof he's doing in attempts to provoke me (which he also admits in emails).
He has proceeded to stalk and gather photos of me (that not even I have saved, which are also private. He sends them to me to taunt me). He sends me screenshots of him stalking every family member's socials and every person I've ever been friends with/or follow or strangers I merely interact with, including innocent fans of my creative work.
I know his name, where he lives and I've retained every email and message as evidence (hence why I don't want to block him, as I want to keep his messages as proof).
I can't change my email or number as I use such for my business. He knows where I live and work (he sends creepy stuff to my house and constantly rings my workplace, despite me telling him not to years ago (no idea how he found out where I work).
He has nearly got me fired many times. He knows my exact weekly schedule, even speaks of boyfriends/girlfriends of distant relatives. He is obsessed and just never stops. I haven't actually replied to him for at least 2 whole years. I guess I thought he'd just get bored and give up, but it seems to be getting worse, nor have I encouraged him in any way at all, yet he continues to fabricate deranged stories about me, then believes them and abuses me for these wild made-up stories.
He seems very dangerous as the only times I've spoke to him, a year ago, was to tell him to stop and to leave me alone - that just made it worse as he doesn't believe he's doing anything wrong. He creates fake accounts and pretends to be people to get me to reply, and I can't be totally private due to my second day-job as a creative freelancer. He has basically destroyed my life.
Every morning I awake to a flood of abuse including horrific things he says he will be doing to me sexually "when he arrives in Australia", often sending me photos of plane tickets and telling me that I will have no choice and he will be with me forever whether I like it or not...
Honestly this is just my brief overview. I have over 12,000 messages saved from the past year, not including emails or the hundreds/thousands of calls I've never answered.
I haven't even bothered to go to the police as this isn't my first stalker. The other one was in Australia and they couldn't even do anything about it. I've been to the police a few times with serious issues in the past, and they never seem to be able to help, even with evidence, so I've just sort of lost faith and have just attempted to ignore it all, but I'm over having to deal with this every day of my life. As this man isn't living in Australia I assume there's nothing I can do?
I assume I can't even get in contact with LA police, so I'm just posting here as things have gotten so bad lately, he has destroyed my life in so many ways, and destroyed me as a person through his manipulation and emotional abuse to say the least. He also spreads lies amongst our mutual friends and making sure they won't be there to support me. I never speak or even look at any man out of fear he might find out, considering the horrific stuff he says he'll do to me for things I actually haven't even done.
Every person I show are just lost for words. People don't take it seriously because it's ''online'' but I know this man and his friends, and it really sucks that people get away with this sort of stuff just because there address is a little different.
I fear for my safety and will have to look at moving house and jobs just to feel safe, he has bluntly admitted to doing certain things to provoke me and told me to never tell anymore or *insert various horrible things he will do to me*...
I'm terrified to speak to people, I have anxiety attacks looking at my phone, every time I go on social media, I'm terrified to post something or merely like a tweet as I get severely abused for it. He's an actual psychopath - it's not even slightly okay behaviour, considering I've done nothing wrong and nothing to encourage him.
He's talking to me as if we're married, he's having conversations at me, about me, as if I'm actually replying, half the stuff he says I can't even understand anymore - it's not even making sense. I have every message and email saved. I'm talking nearly 20,000 messages sent in the past 2 years when I consider all social accounts he attempts to contact me on plus email etc, with thousands of calls etc.
I saw this happening to a man in the US, but the cyber-stalker was from the US and she went to jail or something. Is there anything one can do if it's the same case but involves someone living in another country? Do I literally have to wait until he comes to Australia and hurts/rapes me (like he says he will, aka threats) before the police can do something? Sorry if this is a little forward, sadly this isn't even the start of it.
Sorry this got a little long, it's a very messed up and in-depth story, few words can't even bring to describe.
Does anyone have any options?
Thank you in advance for any thoughts or help.