Hi, my brother went thru this with his ex. She ended up turning all the kids against him and ruining the relationship she had. What contributed to this was his legal representative was too passive. To be honest what sammy01 has said is accurate, you need to up the game. Your lawyer should have advised you of this already. I would be looking at getting a new lawyer, one who will be more aggressive in their approach. Don't b***h about her and who did what to whom, leave that game for her. Get a lawyer and go for 50/50 custody....shake the tree and see what falls out.