Thanks to everyone for their feedback.
My main concern has always been the safety and well-being of our kids.
I have always wanted our kids to spend at least a night at their mums house provided she is there with them. However she is an habitual liar, she says one thing and does the opposite. I just need assurance that they will be OK. She had her eldest son living in the same house (he has a conviction of sexual assault) and was fine with leaving our 3 kids alone for hours with him.
She recently kicked him out because of violence (smashing holes in the walls etc). She started drinking heavily while still living at our place. Our youngest found a full bottle of alcohol hidden between the couch and tried to open it thinking in was soft drink ( I have 2 witnesses), when asked about it she said she wasn't drinking.
Our kids are happier and safer with me. They tell me all the time. I would love them to spend time with their mother but I am very concerned for them as well. When they come home from being with her they are so happy to be back. They tell me every time. Most times they don't want to go. But I tell them that 'they'll have fun' or 'you'll have a good time'. I'm not a liar but doing this to paint her as great is hard.
My main concern has always been the safety and well-being of our kids.
I have always wanted our kids to spend at least a night at their mums house provided she is there with them. However she is an habitual liar, she says one thing and does the opposite. I just need assurance that they will be OK. She had her eldest son living in the same house (he has a conviction of sexual assault) and was fine with leaving our 3 kids alone for hours with him.
She recently kicked him out because of violence (smashing holes in the walls etc). She started drinking heavily while still living at our place. Our youngest found a full bottle of alcohol hidden between the couch and tried to open it thinking in was soft drink ( I have 2 witnesses), when asked about it she said she wasn't drinking.
Our kids are happier and safer with me. They tell me all the time. I would love them to spend time with their mother but I am very concerned for them as well. When they come home from being with her they are so happy to be back. They tell me every time. Most times they don't want to go. But I tell them that 'they'll have fun' or 'you'll have a good time'. I'm not a liar but doing this to paint her as great is hard.