I've been married for 13 years and throughout the marriage there was many issues.
Long story short I worked out my ex is a covert narcissist. When she knew I knew she took the 3 kids and lived with my parents.
On a daily basis she'd text me to upset me every time my parents would come home for the sole purpose of causing conflict between myself and my parents and after two months I saw what she was pulling and then went completely no contact.
My relationship with my children was very good until in 2016 she had her removed based on false allegations of assault and in total she's done this 4 times in 13 years where I would catch her cheating and in response she would call the police and have me charged.
Today I stand with no criminal record as she wouldn't front up the court because I found evidence she was lying and she would not want to come to court.
When she decided abruptly to leave my parents house she took three children and I've not seen them since either have my parents who raised all three of them while she was at work.
I had no choice but to the bug my daughter's tablet because she's not a good parent and she hides this from the outside world and subsequently these recordings of her showing my kids videos online on fathers killing their kids and basically saying that's what happens when daddy gets cranky.
I remain in the matrimonial home for one year and three quarters there was court orders to sell the house and the house was on the market. Unfortunately a battery charger caught fire and burnt a room in the house and significant smoke damage throughout the house.
Well I made her solicitor aware I've then received a court order to re attend Court and she basically wants to take the house from me and an interim hearing was put in place because apparently she has fears that I'll burn the whole house down.
Last week after attending court and proving that she's lied about many things in her affidavit the judge remove me from my house and gave her sole occupancy and I've got seven days to leave.
Proof was given that I've paid the house of myself throughout the years and I paid for everything including insurances home loans kids schooling.
She claimed that her lifestyle has diminished as she lives in a unit with the three kids which is something she had time to plan as she moved out from my parents house straight to her sister's and from there organised the unit.
She's gone to the bank and apply for a loan including money to pay me out when it's worked out it's 75% to her 25% to me.
I pushed it to have the house sold as per her original requests and no matter what I did the judge was going to give her the house on the basis that when she was living with my parents my mother would come visit and drop off dinner to me and because of that it proves as a good relationship with my parents therefore I can move in with them.
She's highly vindictive I'm aware she has a personality disorder and every time we go to a family consultant or the specialist appointed she always goes first painting the picture she's a great storyteller has no evidence and subsequently I suffer I even lost my job because of her calling my work and telling them that I had a charge against me and telling my work I had no passport because the police took it cos I was a drug dealer which is completely faults as she stole my passport.
I've been trying to get myself functional but just the world's against me.
I can't afford a solicitor as I fought off 2 AVOs in 2017 all in which costed me about $35,000 as I was aware after being shown text messages that everything was planned by her and the only way she could get the house back was with an AVO and she fabricated further stories to the police you put an AVO on mean which I thought successfully and had dismissed.
Truth of the matter is right now I try to remain away from my parents because their health has completely gone down hill and I don't want to basically be at home and for them to keep stressing about me.
All her actions are premeditated and after four times of her unlawfully having you arrested and attempting to prosecute you for things that you didn't do you kind of get the idea that this person is going to really hurt you but you have three children that you love very much and you're their only defence.
I had her bugged yes for the sole purpose of protecting myself because everything's premeditated and there's a significant amount of information proving exactly that.
The problem I have is it's viewed as I'm stalking her but truth of the matter is there's no other way for me to protect myself and law says if there's a litigation issue then I can bug someone or if someone is doing something I'm awful I can bug someone.
I did not bug her directly I bug my daughter's tablet and because of this there's recordings of her showing the kids videos of fathers killing their kids and saying that's what happens with that he gets cranky and when I go to the court appointed specialist my kids are terrified of me.
I'm aware of my condition that I have c-ptsd due to narcissistic abuse which can be misinterpreted by even the specialist.
My question here is is there anything I can do in response to my immediate eviction from my house based on an apparent diminished quality of life for her and the kids but this person has actually created that as a picture not the reality.
I'm actively searching for work but struggle everyday of my life as practically I've lost everything that I've ever worked for for no reason apart from someone that's narcissistic and pretty much screwed up my head with unlawful prosecutions and very bad treatment.
I find myself homeless I feel sorry for my children but I just feel like the whole world is pulled from under me.
at the end of the day I can't understand how I have been removed from my house because someone change their mind and instead of wanting me to sell because of a fire which was investigated and prove not deliberate subsequently makes me get evicted because she think she can pay me off and she's already learning the up for a 75% taking.
I must mention that I have not attempted to see the children as I've already stated very clearly that if I did she would put sexual abuse allegations against me and secondly how can you see your children and spend time with them when they think you're going to kill them.
The courts specialist was showing the audio of her doing her actions views me as a stalker when it's just impossible to make them understand that you're living with a gun against your head and there's no other way to record yourself but by exposing who that person really is.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Long story short I worked out my ex is a covert narcissist. When she knew I knew she took the 3 kids and lived with my parents.
On a daily basis she'd text me to upset me every time my parents would come home for the sole purpose of causing conflict between myself and my parents and after two months I saw what she was pulling and then went completely no contact.
My relationship with my children was very good until in 2016 she had her removed based on false allegations of assault and in total she's done this 4 times in 13 years where I would catch her cheating and in response she would call the police and have me charged.
Today I stand with no criminal record as she wouldn't front up the court because I found evidence she was lying and she would not want to come to court.
When she decided abruptly to leave my parents house she took three children and I've not seen them since either have my parents who raised all three of them while she was at work.
I had no choice but to the bug my daughter's tablet because she's not a good parent and she hides this from the outside world and subsequently these recordings of her showing my kids videos online on fathers killing their kids and basically saying that's what happens when daddy gets cranky.
I remain in the matrimonial home for one year and three quarters there was court orders to sell the house and the house was on the market. Unfortunately a battery charger caught fire and burnt a room in the house and significant smoke damage throughout the house.
Well I made her solicitor aware I've then received a court order to re attend Court and she basically wants to take the house from me and an interim hearing was put in place because apparently she has fears that I'll burn the whole house down.
Last week after attending court and proving that she's lied about many things in her affidavit the judge remove me from my house and gave her sole occupancy and I've got seven days to leave.
Proof was given that I've paid the house of myself throughout the years and I paid for everything including insurances home loans kids schooling.
She claimed that her lifestyle has diminished as she lives in a unit with the three kids which is something she had time to plan as she moved out from my parents house straight to her sister's and from there organised the unit.
She's gone to the bank and apply for a loan including money to pay me out when it's worked out it's 75% to her 25% to me.
I pushed it to have the house sold as per her original requests and no matter what I did the judge was going to give her the house on the basis that when she was living with my parents my mother would come visit and drop off dinner to me and because of that it proves as a good relationship with my parents therefore I can move in with them.
She's highly vindictive I'm aware she has a personality disorder and every time we go to a family consultant or the specialist appointed she always goes first painting the picture she's a great storyteller has no evidence and subsequently I suffer I even lost my job because of her calling my work and telling them that I had a charge against me and telling my work I had no passport because the police took it cos I was a drug dealer which is completely faults as she stole my passport.
I've been trying to get myself functional but just the world's against me.
I can't afford a solicitor as I fought off 2 AVOs in 2017 all in which costed me about $35,000 as I was aware after being shown text messages that everything was planned by her and the only way she could get the house back was with an AVO and she fabricated further stories to the police you put an AVO on mean which I thought successfully and had dismissed.
Truth of the matter is right now I try to remain away from my parents because their health has completely gone down hill and I don't want to basically be at home and for them to keep stressing about me.
All her actions are premeditated and after four times of her unlawfully having you arrested and attempting to prosecute you for things that you didn't do you kind of get the idea that this person is going to really hurt you but you have three children that you love very much and you're their only defence.
I had her bugged yes for the sole purpose of protecting myself because everything's premeditated and there's a significant amount of information proving exactly that.
The problem I have is it's viewed as I'm stalking her but truth of the matter is there's no other way for me to protect myself and law says if there's a litigation issue then I can bug someone or if someone is doing something I'm awful I can bug someone.
I did not bug her directly I bug my daughter's tablet and because of this there's recordings of her showing the kids videos of fathers killing their kids and saying that's what happens with that he gets cranky and when I go to the court appointed specialist my kids are terrified of me.
I'm aware of my condition that I have c-ptsd due to narcissistic abuse which can be misinterpreted by even the specialist.
My question here is is there anything I can do in response to my immediate eviction from my house based on an apparent diminished quality of life for her and the kids but this person has actually created that as a picture not the reality.
I'm actively searching for work but struggle everyday of my life as practically I've lost everything that I've ever worked for for no reason apart from someone that's narcissistic and pretty much screwed up my head with unlawful prosecutions and very bad treatment.
I find myself homeless I feel sorry for my children but I just feel like the whole world is pulled from under me.
at the end of the day I can't understand how I have been removed from my house because someone change their mind and instead of wanting me to sell because of a fire which was investigated and prove not deliberate subsequently makes me get evicted because she think she can pay me off and she's already learning the up for a 75% taking.
I must mention that I have not attempted to see the children as I've already stated very clearly that if I did she would put sexual abuse allegations against me and secondly how can you see your children and spend time with them when they think you're going to kill them.
The courts specialist was showing the audio of her doing her actions views me as a stalker when it's just impossible to make them understand that you're living with a gun against your head and there's no other way to record yourself but by exposing who that person really is.
Any advice would be appreciated.
