Hi all, I'm the stepmum of a wonderful 11 year old girl. My husband and I have been married for 7 years and together for 8. When I came into his life he was newly divorced with no care of his daughter (then 3). There weren't any legal family court orders in place but his ex had primary care of their daughter and only allowed him day visits. Together over the years, hubby and I were able to slowly convince his ex and turned the day visits into what we have now with her which is Thursday-Sunday (3 nights), every second week and one week for the school holidays and alternate Christmases. In this time, his ex has re-married and has 2 children and we have 3. For the last 2 years his daughter has been saying she wants 50/50 ( custody of children). The mother has always declined it and says it is not in the best interest of the child, despite the fact we only live 10 mins apart and would keep all extra curricular and school commitments. It's a control thing I believe. We've all been patient and thought maybe waiting until the child is 12 where her opinion would be more likely valid would be best. However, the situation is not improving and communication from the mother is failing and the child is miserable to say the least. So it is not only something that her dad and I want, but something that his daughter wants too. We have tried without any success (due to the mum) to organise for them to sit and discuss 50/50 and over 3 months later she still hasn't agreed to a date. So next step is mediation through a practitioner. Would child inclusive mediation be the best option for us and if it did go to court, what would the chances be of us securing 50/50?