Hi,
I'm after some clarity regarding moving interstate from Victoria to Queensland.
At present I am the and have been for the last three years a the primary carer of our three children. Their father used to see them every other fortnight and one week night a fortnight.
I sought parenting orders to increase his time to include half school holidays as I work full time and the costs and extra sporting activities training sessions was placed completely on me when their father had registered them with my support.
Their father then moved 25km away from them and their school. During court mediation the judge told him that due to a high court precedence the courts could not force a father to spend time with his children. He then agreed to only half school holidays during terms 1, 2 & 3 and alternate years from the 24th December to the 7th January and even years from the 26th December to 7th January. This reduced his current care from 110 days per year to 74.
He had my back against the wall in court and I had no choice otherwise I would have them full time. The hand written orders were signed by both of us but not sealed by the court. I currently only have phone evidence of these papers.
I'm at my wits end, the burden of having to pay 50/50 private school fees, sporting, all uniforms, child care after school and during holidays. I have no respite and can only get 6 days off during school holidays which I have to work as it is too expensive for me to get away to re-charge. He sends me email stating I have to take the children to sports training mid week which souls mean I have to leave work early 3pm once a week. I'm already working 8.30 - 5.30 pm for a firm that is understaffed and I'm performing three job roles at present. At present the CSA calculates his income as 73% when our income are combined.
I do not have any support here in Australia as my family reside in the UK where I am originally from. My partner is from Queensland and we have a support network there with family and friends.
My eldest id due to start high school in a year and a half, their father has requested he attend a state high school that I am not in the catchment area for which would mean moving into an expensive area with high costs of rent and moving costs. He lives as stated 25km away from the area. I cannot afford do to this. My eldest friends have already left primary school to attend private school leading to high school and only has 1 or 2 friends in his year.
I have requested to move to Brisbane and have the children during term time and he has holidays with communication during the week with christmas alternated.
He works in a senior management role, travels he also has family in Sydney where he is from. His partner often cares for the children in his absence.
He has advised that should I move he will get recovery orders and only allow me to see the children with his grace which could be never.
I have spent so much money on lawyers I cannot afford to go down a journey that sees me yet again doing all the parenting and stuck in a situation because it suits him.
Any advice or instructions would be great, i.e. is the signed but not sealed parenting orders binding legally?
Many thanks
I'm after some clarity regarding moving interstate from Victoria to Queensland.
At present I am the and have been for the last three years a the primary carer of our three children. Their father used to see them every other fortnight and one week night a fortnight.
I sought parenting orders to increase his time to include half school holidays as I work full time and the costs and extra sporting activities training sessions was placed completely on me when their father had registered them with my support.
Their father then moved 25km away from them and their school. During court mediation the judge told him that due to a high court precedence the courts could not force a father to spend time with his children. He then agreed to only half school holidays during terms 1, 2 & 3 and alternate years from the 24th December to the 7th January and even years from the 26th December to 7th January. This reduced his current care from 110 days per year to 74.
He had my back against the wall in court and I had no choice otherwise I would have them full time. The hand written orders were signed by both of us but not sealed by the court. I currently only have phone evidence of these papers.
I'm at my wits end, the burden of having to pay 50/50 private school fees, sporting, all uniforms, child care after school and during holidays. I have no respite and can only get 6 days off during school holidays which I have to work as it is too expensive for me to get away to re-charge. He sends me email stating I have to take the children to sports training mid week which souls mean I have to leave work early 3pm once a week. I'm already working 8.30 - 5.30 pm for a firm that is understaffed and I'm performing three job roles at present. At present the CSA calculates his income as 73% when our income are combined.
I do not have any support here in Australia as my family reside in the UK where I am originally from. My partner is from Queensland and we have a support network there with family and friends.
My eldest id due to start high school in a year and a half, their father has requested he attend a state high school that I am not in the catchment area for which would mean moving into an expensive area with high costs of rent and moving costs. He lives as stated 25km away from the area. I cannot afford do to this. My eldest friends have already left primary school to attend private school leading to high school and only has 1 or 2 friends in his year.
I have requested to move to Brisbane and have the children during term time and he has holidays with communication during the week with christmas alternated.
He works in a senior management role, travels he also has family in Sydney where he is from. His partner often cares for the children in his absence.
He has advised that should I move he will get recovery orders and only allow me to see the children with his grace which could be never.
I have spent so much money on lawyers I cannot afford to go down a journey that sees me yet again doing all the parenting and stuck in a situation because it suits him.
Any advice or instructions would be great, i.e. is the signed but not sealed parenting orders binding legally?
Many thanks