NSW Partner's Ex Not Complying with Parenting Order - Family Court Options?

[AllForHer]

Consider contraventions in terms of seriousness, frequency and volume.

Missed phone call isn't serious.

Missed care time is serious.

Missed care time once isn't serious.

Missed care time missed every time for several months is very serious.

Document every time there is a contravention. When the volume starts getting up there, then you file contravention proceedings.

The court doesn't want to see you for petty reasons. It has neither the time nor the resources to deal with every little issue.

 

[Corinne]

Thanks for the help, will just keep documenting and try to minimise the impact of antics. Last night she did rock up to changeover but was an hour and a half late. I feel like it will add up soon.

 

[sammy01]

Get used to it and make contingency plans. If I complained to my ex for being an hour late I know she'd be an hour and a half late next time... So I take a book or have a snooze in the car. Just not worth court over...

 

[gms]

how can you have court orders for a child to spend time with a father and a parent ignore the obligations..

 

[sammy01]

I'd like to say it isn't because the system is broken... But it is because the system is broken...

 

[Needingapath]

U'm - have to disagree... Tell her it is a legally binding agreement and that she can't keep dictating her bulls**t - you know what will happen next? You won't see the kid for a month or more. Just so she can prove you wrong.. In-fact if you actually use that language she'll have an AVO against you and you won't be seeing the kid at all..
The law is yet to work out how to make an order that forces a nasty vindictive ex to play nice. So your job is to become ambivalent to the stupidity and work out ways of managing your time with the kids so the ex's antics have no impact on you.... Tough gig and if you ever work out how to do it can you let me know the secret 'cause I'm still struggling with it.

This is exactly what my partner is dealing with. Is there ever a way to win?

 

[Rod]

Keep a log book of all contraventions. Then when something worth a trip to court occurs you have supporting documentation. Makes it easier to win.