My ex-partner has decided after 3 and a half years to quit his current job (military) and move to the town our 2 children and I live in. He wants to go 50/50 custody of children, but in the last 3 years the kids have only seen him a few times on school holidays and if he comes up on a weekend which is not often. I am glad he wants to be more involved but our eldest has autism and other medical conditions including anxiety disorder. In the past, he has refused to stay with his dad so I have stayed at my ex's house at night so our son feels comfortable. Our arrangement has only ever been verbal and not in writing. I have always tried to be amicable, there is no history of violence or abuse of any kind. I'm just worried how it will impact on the kids and what rights do I have and them with regard to 50/50 custody of children given such a long history of adhoc visitation. I am also worried about how finance is worked out as I work part time but caring for our son has meant full-time work has been very hard to keep down with his health needs (I receive a Carers Pension). I have been told that child support ceases and then parenting pension does too. Is there a transition time to give me a chance to look for full-time work? Any help with family law would be appreciated.