My child's father and I have separated and have been to mediation trying to set up a parenting agreement ( custody of children) for our child. Unfortunately we have not been able to come to any agreement. I have been told my next step is to apply for a "court ordered parenting plan" i.e. terms determined by a family law judge. I have been given conflicting information - is it better for me to lodge the documents at the court or should I wait until the father lodges the forms and I become the respondent? I am wanting to get this sorted out ASAP for the benefit of our child. Thank you in anticipation.