OK, so I'm wondering about amending a DVO on my partner/ex( not sure what to call him as we aren't allowed to see each other). We had 1 incident. Police were called and DVO was put on both of us as it was a really bad fight.
There had been no incidents before. I assumed it was at my discretion if we could see each other as he has conditions on his but mine is only to be of good behaviour.
Anyway I've applied to amend it. I just want the no contact stuff taken off, not to get rid of the whole thing or anything. He is being breached due to us being seen together by police a couple of weeks back (we went on a date, and as I stated, thought it would be OK, cause it was on my say so). The day it originally went to court was literally the next morning and I was still in a state of shock that we had even fought so I wasn't really aware of what it all meant and what was happening, and he didn't turn up as. I was told it wouldn't matter either way by the police.
The lady at Legal Aid said I had 0% chance of them agreeing to let us seeing each other as the kids were here and they will just say conditions with exemptions, which has me confused and very worried.
We want to continue to see each other. We didn't live together prior to this anyway which was what the fight was about (he wouldn't leave and I went into panic mode due to past abuse from my husband).
Any help in knowing what the process will be or what kind of outcomes we can expect would be really appreciated.
Also, is there anything extra I should be doing, like speaking to the police who attended that night or?
Really really hope someone can shed some light. I feel like all my choices have been taken away and I'm very panicked and stressed.
There had been no incidents before. I assumed it was at my discretion if we could see each other as he has conditions on his but mine is only to be of good behaviour.
Anyway I've applied to amend it. I just want the no contact stuff taken off, not to get rid of the whole thing or anything. He is being breached due to us being seen together by police a couple of weeks back (we went on a date, and as I stated, thought it would be OK, cause it was on my say so). The day it originally went to court was literally the next morning and I was still in a state of shock that we had even fought so I wasn't really aware of what it all meant and what was happening, and he didn't turn up as. I was told it wouldn't matter either way by the police.
The lady at Legal Aid said I had 0% chance of them agreeing to let us seeing each other as the kids were here and they will just say conditions with exemptions, which has me confused and very worried.
We want to continue to see each other. We didn't live together prior to this anyway which was what the fight was about (he wouldn't leave and I went into panic mode due to past abuse from my husband).
Any help in knowing what the process will be or what kind of outcomes we can expect would be really appreciated.
Also, is there anything extra I should be doing, like speaking to the police who attended that night or?
Really really hope someone can shed some light. I feel like all my choices have been taken away and I'm very panicked and stressed.