Hi
My ex and I separated 12 months ago but have continued to live in a property we own as joint tenants because we a) thought it would be a good idea to stay in the same house with the dog, and b) we did not foresee any problem in the future.
Unfortunately, all has not gone as swell as planned. My ex has started a serious relationship in the last 3 months and the new BF is here every single day and night. I never agreed to this and I am aware that legally he has every right to have guests over, as often as he likes, but there is zero "me" space/time in the house. I can even hear them having sex every day when I am sitting in the lounge room watching TV.
The BF has settled in so much that he actually tells me what to do (ie turn down the TV, don't turn off the lights, stop using all the hot water, stop banging the dishes when you put them away, etc.). I know it sounds like petty stuff but when it is constant, it has begun to affect me mentally. The BF has even yelled and sworn at me when I have pushed back - very intimidating...and I expressed this directly at the time. I have raised this concern to the ex who believes that his BF has the right to voice his opinion. I am now starting to record any "conversations" that occur.
Today I have asked the ex to control his guest and if the BF does have anything he wants to say to me, then to go through the ex and not address me directly. My ex said he will try but I feel this will backfire.
I will be requesting that the property goes on the market in the next 3-4 weeks and have a lawyer on standby pending the outcome.
Long winded story and I do apologise for that. At the end of the day, I just want to know what property rights I have as a co-owner of the property to protect myself from harassment? Does the BF have a right to speak to me in this (or any) manner since he is a guest of my ex and is here with his permission?
Appreciate the help.
My ex and I separated 12 months ago but have continued to live in a property we own as joint tenants because we a) thought it would be a good idea to stay in the same house with the dog, and b) we did not foresee any problem in the future.
Unfortunately, all has not gone as swell as planned. My ex has started a serious relationship in the last 3 months and the new BF is here every single day and night. I never agreed to this and I am aware that legally he has every right to have guests over, as often as he likes, but there is zero "me" space/time in the house. I can even hear them having sex every day when I am sitting in the lounge room watching TV.
The BF has settled in so much that he actually tells me what to do (ie turn down the TV, don't turn off the lights, stop using all the hot water, stop banging the dishes when you put them away, etc.). I know it sounds like petty stuff but when it is constant, it has begun to affect me mentally. The BF has even yelled and sworn at me when I have pushed back - very intimidating...and I expressed this directly at the time. I have raised this concern to the ex who believes that his BF has the right to voice his opinion. I am now starting to record any "conversations" that occur.
Today I have asked the ex to control his guest and if the BF does have anything he wants to say to me, then to go through the ex and not address me directly. My ex said he will try but I feel this will backfire.
I will be requesting that the property goes on the market in the next 3-4 weeks and have a lawyer on standby pending the outcome.
Long winded story and I do apologise for that. At the end of the day, I just want to know what property rights I have as a co-owner of the property to protect myself from harassment? Does the BF have a right to speak to me in this (or any) manner since he is a guest of my ex and is here with his permission?
Appreciate the help.