I am the father.
My children are 6 and 8 years old.
They have reported physical and mental abuse to me several times.
The last time they reported abuse it was quite worrying. My ex and her family hit my son in the head, call him an idiot, looser or stupid and then they all have a laugh about it. They tell him they don't want him in the family and that they want to send him to an orphanage. This occurs very regularly.
Both kids asked me to write down what they said happened (in their words), print it and then they wanted to sign it (they learned about signing when we went overseas earlier this year) so that Mummy couldn't say it didn't happen. I found this unusual as kids this age shouldn't think like this. I have never told them about the ex denying the abuse, though does this thing where she tells small lies almost constantly and big ones every few hours - she is quite proud of it because it screws with your mind so badly.
Both kids said that they know that Mummy and her family do not care about them, are mean to them all the time and are bad people. They are aware of this because of the huge difference between mine and my exes households and the people we associate with. Its also obvious because my ex and her family enjoy the abuse so much they rub it in the kids faces.
I have contacted my ex about the abuse a number of times but she turns it around and says that I am turning the kids against her and her family.
My kids are obviously looking to me to help them find ways to deal with the abuse and get it stopped. My main issue is that my ex's whole extended family is in on the abuse so the only people who are prepared to talk about it are the kids - the only witnesses are the kids. There is no way my ex's extended family will stop the abuse voluntarily, they will only stop once the authorities take the kids away.
I am about to submit my family court application in the next 14 days as my care was dropped from 45% to 15%, 4 months ago (ex got a new partner). Once we get into the system I get the feeling the family reporter will probably see them for who they are but I have no idea how far away that is.
My big worry is if the kids report abuse like this again, I feel I will have no choice but to not return them. If I have to do this, what should I expect the court to do about it?
My children are 6 and 8 years old.
They have reported physical and mental abuse to me several times.
The last time they reported abuse it was quite worrying. My ex and her family hit my son in the head, call him an idiot, looser or stupid and then they all have a laugh about it. They tell him they don't want him in the family and that they want to send him to an orphanage. This occurs very regularly.
Both kids asked me to write down what they said happened (in their words), print it and then they wanted to sign it (they learned about signing when we went overseas earlier this year) so that Mummy couldn't say it didn't happen. I found this unusual as kids this age shouldn't think like this. I have never told them about the ex denying the abuse, though does this thing where she tells small lies almost constantly and big ones every few hours - she is quite proud of it because it screws with your mind so badly.
Both kids said that they know that Mummy and her family do not care about them, are mean to them all the time and are bad people. They are aware of this because of the huge difference between mine and my exes households and the people we associate with. Its also obvious because my ex and her family enjoy the abuse so much they rub it in the kids faces.
I have contacted my ex about the abuse a number of times but she turns it around and says that I am turning the kids against her and her family.
My kids are obviously looking to me to help them find ways to deal with the abuse and get it stopped. My main issue is that my ex's whole extended family is in on the abuse so the only people who are prepared to talk about it are the kids - the only witnesses are the kids. There is no way my ex's extended family will stop the abuse voluntarily, they will only stop once the authorities take the kids away.
I am about to submit my family court application in the next 14 days as my care was dropped from 45% to 15%, 4 months ago (ex got a new partner). Once we get into the system I get the feeling the family reporter will probably see them for who they are but I have no idea how far away that is.
My big worry is if the kids report abuse like this again, I feel I will have no choice but to not return them. If I have to do this, what should I expect the court to do about it?
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