Hello. I have endured 6 years of intervention orders. I consented without admissions in the beginning as advice at the time was that it was pointless fighting. They have varied from full orders to basic orders depending on the ex’s mood at the time. It’s a six monthly cycle that has been very difficult to navigate.
Last year in July an order was due to expire when my ex extended it again with very flimsy allegations and put my children on it as well. I indicated I would contest the children being on it and she folded.
I have been paying child support and seeing the kids a lot as we get our separation sorted in terms of child and property arrangements. There are no orders in place. However in recent weeks the ex has become angry that I am not paying for a lot of her bills as well. Things like car insurance, her mobile etc. I have refused point blank as, like me, she works full time and runs an online business as well. She easily earns enough money to cover these costs herself.
One argument escalated to the point where she shoved me in the chest and then accused me of hitting her which was untrue. The next day I was served with an interim IVO once again cutting me off from my kids. This was in the same week that the kids and I had enjoyed a five day camping trip.
Around 10 days later I received a letter from her solicitor offering 48 hours with the kids every two weeks from 6pm Friday to 6pm Sunday. The letter also said she would not be withdrawing her application to have the IVO varied to put the children on it.
Am I right that the ex’s willingness to allow me 48 hours with the girls undermines her supposed fears for their safety?
The paperwork I received from police only contains allegations from the original IVO from 2015. There are no new allegations that I know of and I obviously do not know what was said in court for the magistrate to agree to the interim variation.
I should note here that police are not involved in this. My ex went to court and did this off her own bat. She has often used threats of bringing the full intervention order back to get her way at various times and has now done so.
I intend to self represent at this upcoming hearing and I know that I will need a lawyer for directions/contested hearings.
My question is that do I simply ask the magistrate for [Redacted by Moderator] to provide further and better particulars at the mention? Is there a correct way to phrase this?
Thanks in advance for your help.
Last year in July an order was due to expire when my ex extended it again with very flimsy allegations and put my children on it as well. I indicated I would contest the children being on it and she folded.
I have been paying child support and seeing the kids a lot as we get our separation sorted in terms of child and property arrangements. There are no orders in place. However in recent weeks the ex has become angry that I am not paying for a lot of her bills as well. Things like car insurance, her mobile etc. I have refused point blank as, like me, she works full time and runs an online business as well. She easily earns enough money to cover these costs herself.
One argument escalated to the point where she shoved me in the chest and then accused me of hitting her which was untrue. The next day I was served with an interim IVO once again cutting me off from my kids. This was in the same week that the kids and I had enjoyed a five day camping trip.
Around 10 days later I received a letter from her solicitor offering 48 hours with the kids every two weeks from 6pm Friday to 6pm Sunday. The letter also said she would not be withdrawing her application to have the IVO varied to put the children on it.
Am I right that the ex’s willingness to allow me 48 hours with the girls undermines her supposed fears for their safety?
The paperwork I received from police only contains allegations from the original IVO from 2015. There are no new allegations that I know of and I obviously do not know what was said in court for the magistrate to agree to the interim variation.
I should note here that police are not involved in this. My ex went to court and did this off her own bat. She has often used threats of bringing the full intervention order back to get her way at various times and has now done so.
I intend to self represent at this upcoming hearing and I know that I will need a lawyer for directions/contested hearings.
My question is that do I simply ask the magistrate for [Redacted by Moderator] to provide further and better particulars at the mention? Is there a correct way to phrase this?
Thanks in advance for your help.