Thank you for your input DadyO, much appreciated
That is the conclusion I'm getting to, too.
I'm am thinking of offering Spousal Support rather than increasing Child support - in my mind I have then closed that avenue for her as well. Obviously only until my youngest child turns 18. Any thoughts on that strategy?
Also by offering over and above on support can I then be more aggressive on property settlement and go 55/45?
Obviously, I want to offer her a package where there is no benefit of going to court.
From here, these kind of fine details are too dependent on factors such as, your wife's attitude and the advice she will receive from her lawyers and whatever spanners are thrown in by friends and family (she will get lots of advice that may cause trouble) to make general suggestions.
Good luck and don't let your heart rule your head.