Evening everyone,
Some further history in other posts, however, are seeking some advice please regarding applying to vary consent orders.
The existing orders are very brief and only include a few items which refer to - Parents have shared Parental responsibility - child lives with mother - father can contact child when agreed in writing - parents get on (not the case).
Unfortunately mother has been denying all contact with child, however has agreed to a final mediation session to discuss amendment to consent orders (very unlikely agreement will be achieved however as she is still pushing for a BFA).
We would like to understand the terminology a bit better as the lack of understanding around the term "shared parenting responsibility" has caused some tension. The ex interprets 'shared parental responsibility' to be that the father is to pay 50% of everything (her living costs, day care, medical, clothes, babysitting, sports and so on- all on top of the excessive child support payments (yes still making them). She frequently withholds access to child and does not consult the father at all on any matters until after the fact and then sends receipts demanding payment. Up until yesterday the father had not seen child in 5 months, as there was a medical situation and the only reason he was contacted, was not due to his illness, but for contribution to the medical bills.
We have reviewed other posts in this forum and looked at the Act (Meaning of parental responsibility; In this Part, parental responsibility , in relation to a child, means all the duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which, by law, parents have in relation to children). However would like to better understand what does 'shared parenting mean' and what type of matters could it potentially address and how can this be better addressed in Consent Orders?
We also found the below in a different post, which we believe could be used?
That in respect of each issue concerning the long term care, welfare and development of the children the Applicant and the Respondent shall:-
- Consult with the other person in relation to the decision to be made; and
- Make a genuine effort to come to a joint decision about that issue;
- Should the parties fail to come to a joint decision the parties will engage the services of a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner for mediation and will equally meet the cost of such mediation.
Questions:
- How can 'shared Parenting responsibility' be better addressed/broken down into detail in the Consent Orders?
- What implications could arise if she was to have 'Sole Responsibility' ~ any thoughts for or against this?
- As there are medical concerns for the child and concern that some of this is stemming from the mother, can the father be able to contact Doctors/School etc to make inquiries and could this be included in the orders?
- Greatly appreciate any other general advice for inclusions to the consent orders, as we appreciate that there are likely to be matters as he gets older that we are not aware of
Thank you
Some further history in other posts, however, are seeking some advice please regarding applying to vary consent orders.
The existing orders are very brief and only include a few items which refer to - Parents have shared Parental responsibility - child lives with mother - father can contact child when agreed in writing - parents get on (not the case).
Unfortunately mother has been denying all contact with child, however has agreed to a final mediation session to discuss amendment to consent orders (very unlikely agreement will be achieved however as she is still pushing for a BFA).
We would like to understand the terminology a bit better as the lack of understanding around the term "shared parenting responsibility" has caused some tension. The ex interprets 'shared parental responsibility' to be that the father is to pay 50% of everything (her living costs, day care, medical, clothes, babysitting, sports and so on- all on top of the excessive child support payments (yes still making them). She frequently withholds access to child and does not consult the father at all on any matters until after the fact and then sends receipts demanding payment. Up until yesterday the father had not seen child in 5 months, as there was a medical situation and the only reason he was contacted, was not due to his illness, but for contribution to the medical bills.
We have reviewed other posts in this forum and looked at the Act (Meaning of parental responsibility; In this Part, parental responsibility , in relation to a child, means all the duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which, by law, parents have in relation to children). However would like to better understand what does 'shared parenting mean' and what type of matters could it potentially address and how can this be better addressed in Consent Orders?
We also found the below in a different post, which we believe could be used?
That in respect of each issue concerning the long term care, welfare and development of the children the Applicant and the Respondent shall:-
- Consult with the other person in relation to the decision to be made; and
- Make a genuine effort to come to a joint decision about that issue;
- Should the parties fail to come to a joint decision the parties will engage the services of a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner for mediation and will equally meet the cost of such mediation.
Questions:
- How can 'shared Parenting responsibility' be better addressed/broken down into detail in the Consent Orders?
- What implications could arise if she was to have 'Sole Responsibility' ~ any thoughts for or against this?
- As there are medical concerns for the child and concern that some of this is stemming from the mother, can the father be able to contact Doctors/School etc to make inquiries and could this be included in the orders?
- Greatly appreciate any other general advice for inclusions to the consent orders, as we appreciate that there are likely to be matters as he gets older that we are not aware of
Thank you