I have a beautiful baby girl who is 13 weeks old.
Her father was never supportive during and after pregnancy. He is a compulsive liar, a drug addict, doesn't have a job, a car, a licence, and he is like a bum in the local town with his druggo mates who all hang out scabbing cigarettes off people passing by and that's all they do with their life. It's absolutely humiliating.
He lives with his mummy and in about 7 months, he had 6 jobs which he lost. He bullied a co-worker, acted like he was the boss, controlled people, never turned up much for shifts. He stunk and had bad hygiene. He is just a gross person that I have no idea how I never saw it when I first was with him.
Doctors said I was unable to have children so this beautiful amazing girl is a miracle. I told him I refuse to even try for a child with him (if it was possible - just in case) until he got his life together but was pregnant at the time and didn't know.
He would leave me home alone constantly while off smoking bongs with friend's and whatever else. Never had support even living with him. I was physically sick for months but after two weeks of finding out I was 6 weeks 5 days preg, I left him and never returned.
He could not care less. He still managed to try and get money off me, even scab food and ask me to buy him smokes etc while I wasn't even living there and we weren't together. He destroyed a lot of my belongings when he packed my stuff to move me out of our rental. He never asked how I was and once offered to pay half of an ultrasound bill...then asked me to pay him back. He is a selfish person and I wish he would just drop off the earth!
So anyway, no help whatsoever during pregnancy. His family stopped talking to me. I deleted them off facebook. Only because of ex but they refused to talk to me after that. Childish. My family and I paid for everything. I did it all without him and then one day I received a letter from Family Relationship Centre in Penrith. I was fuming!
From day one, I told him to get off the weed, quit the lying and be responsible and it will work out better for our daughter. For some reason, that was too hard and now this was being put on me. I refused to see this FRC place just for his piece of mind. I gave him chances during pregnancy to sort it but he refused.
So anyway, due to my history of medical issues internally (to prevent even having a baby) I chose to see the same obstetrician who healed me before with cancerous cells. Because of that, ex broke his promise to help me with money for the obstetrician. I chose to see a doctor who was $140 a month and because of that, ex refused to help me pay. Even his mother said he had no right to pay when.it was my decision not to go public. I only asked twice to ex for money at the beginning.
An issue each time so I quit and did it alone. Barely heard a word from him during this time so I never let him know when she was born.
Now since bub has been born, he and i got close again somehow. I had seen a change with emotion and he has promised me he's been off the weed for months.his mother says she was drug testing him. Was a lie. She said she had finally stopped doing his banking (he had no idea how to pay bills or anything!) And that was a lie. She sticks up for him constantly.
Her father was never supportive during and after pregnancy. He is a compulsive liar, a drug addict, doesn't have a job, a car, a licence, and he is like a bum in the local town with his druggo mates who all hang out scabbing cigarettes off people passing by and that's all they do with their life. It's absolutely humiliating.
He lives with his mummy and in about 7 months, he had 6 jobs which he lost. He bullied a co-worker, acted like he was the boss, controlled people, never turned up much for shifts. He stunk and had bad hygiene. He is just a gross person that I have no idea how I never saw it when I first was with him.
Doctors said I was unable to have children so this beautiful amazing girl is a miracle. I told him I refuse to even try for a child with him (if it was possible - just in case) until he got his life together but was pregnant at the time and didn't know.
He would leave me home alone constantly while off smoking bongs with friend's and whatever else. Never had support even living with him. I was physically sick for months but after two weeks of finding out I was 6 weeks 5 days preg, I left him and never returned.
He could not care less. He still managed to try and get money off me, even scab food and ask me to buy him smokes etc while I wasn't even living there and we weren't together. He destroyed a lot of my belongings when he packed my stuff to move me out of our rental. He never asked how I was and once offered to pay half of an ultrasound bill...then asked me to pay him back. He is a selfish person and I wish he would just drop off the earth!
So anyway, no help whatsoever during pregnancy. His family stopped talking to me. I deleted them off facebook. Only because of ex but they refused to talk to me after that. Childish. My family and I paid for everything. I did it all without him and then one day I received a letter from Family Relationship Centre in Penrith. I was fuming!
From day one, I told him to get off the weed, quit the lying and be responsible and it will work out better for our daughter. For some reason, that was too hard and now this was being put on me. I refused to see this FRC place just for his piece of mind. I gave him chances during pregnancy to sort it but he refused.
So anyway, due to my history of medical issues internally (to prevent even having a baby) I chose to see the same obstetrician who healed me before with cancerous cells. Because of that, ex broke his promise to help me with money for the obstetrician. I chose to see a doctor who was $140 a month and because of that, ex refused to help me pay. Even his mother said he had no right to pay when.it was my decision not to go public. I only asked twice to ex for money at the beginning.
An issue each time so I quit and did it alone. Barely heard a word from him during this time so I never let him know when she was born.
Now since bub has been born, he and i got close again somehow. I had seen a change with emotion and he has promised me he's been off the weed for months.his mother says she was drug testing him. Was a lie. She said she had finally stopped doing his banking (he had no idea how to pay bills or anything!) And that was a lie. She sticks up for him constantly.