My 14 year old daughter has come on her usual schedule visit with me which happens every second weekend and school holidays. She comes with her twin sister on arriving yesterday and she informed me that she doesn't want to go back to her dad's, thinking I could speak him about this.
I rang him where I brought up the issue only to be abused by him and his girlfriend and he told me that if she doesn't return home he would turn my other twin against me as she and I don't have a great relationship it won't take much. My daughters have lived with their father and stepmother for just over three years as they have custody of children. I felt this was the right thing to do at the time because I had to move in with my mother in a two bedroom apartment after my separation with my partner. I also had two younger children, so the place was very small and they had their own room at their father's.
A short time later I became addicted to drugs and lost everything, I received the help I needed and got clean. I got myself a place big enough for us all in a safe environment and been two and bit years clean. I'm working in rebuilding my relationship with my children. The twin who isn't the one that wants to stay has resentment and hurt towards me, this is why it would be easy for him to turn her against me. I have offered to do counselling to build a relationship with her but her father won't allow it.
I'm so confused. Please help.
Do I send her back and have her resent me as well?
I rang him where I brought up the issue only to be abused by him and his girlfriend and he told me that if she doesn't return home he would turn my other twin against me as she and I don't have a great relationship it won't take much. My daughters have lived with their father and stepmother for just over three years as they have custody of children. I felt this was the right thing to do at the time because I had to move in with my mother in a two bedroom apartment after my separation with my partner. I also had two younger children, so the place was very small and they had their own room at their father's.
A short time later I became addicted to drugs and lost everything, I received the help I needed and got clean. I got myself a place big enough for us all in a safe environment and been two and bit years clean. I'm working in rebuilding my relationship with my children. The twin who isn't the one that wants to stay has resentment and hurt towards me, this is why it would be easy for him to turn her against me. I have offered to do counselling to build a relationship with her but her father won't allow it.
I'm so confused. Please help.
Do I send her back and have her resent me as well?